lorihadams
Always doing laundry
you just wish you could be alone? I love my kids and I love my husband but some days I just wish I could be by myself with my animals. I miss the days when I could do what I want when I want without having to answer to anyone. I feel like I constantly have to come up with something for an excuse when I don't want to do something that my husband or kids want to do.
I constantly feel like I have lost myself somewhere in the process of becoming a wife and mother. I spiraled into such a deep depression that my husband threatened to leave me if I didn't get professional help. I'm better now but there are times when I just don't know who I am anymore.
This is constantly an issue when I just want some time to myself. Point in case, my DH's grandmother is in a home with a professional nurse, she lives there all the time with one other patient and the family of the nurse. The husband of said nurse is partnering with my DH this year for several hunting ventures (he has a guide service in another state). The last 10 times I have been to see Nanny with DH we are there for 5 minutes and then the husbands disappear for 2 hours and then come back for 5 minutes and we leave. I am left to talk to a woman that I barely know and who does not know me and to watch my two children and nurse's 2 children to make sure they don't break anything. (she has lots of antiques, very nice stuff).
Today, I wanted to stay home because our brahma chicks (7weeks old) have just been moved to the big coop and need to be put in there (this is day 2). We also moved our 10 2 week old ducklings to their pen and house last night and I need to be here to get everyone where they are supposed to be and locked up tight. I also don't want to go sit there for 2-3 hours while we all are starving and talk to people I don't know. He says, "if it was your grandmother things would be different". Well, yes it would be. I grew up with her, I have things to talk to her about, I KNOW her. She has also been lucid the entire time DH has known her. Nanny has had alzheimer's the entire time I've known her. I have driven her to doctor's appts., I have visited her in the nursing home EVERY DAY I was pregnant with my son, listened to her call me every name in the book, searched her house for things that "someone had stolen", stopped her from setting the house on fire, bought her groceries and clothes, and I am sorry, sometimes I just don't want to be around her.
I don't want to be selfish but I'm just tired of being left alone with her. My children don't really know her and she doesn't know them. It is just hard when she has alzheimers and I feel like I am constantly "stuck" with her.
I am sorry for the rant but I guess I just needed to vent cause now my hubby is pissed at me and probably will be for the next few days but I just don't want to go over there. Is that such a bad thing? I am hardly ever without my children and sometimes I just want to be by myself. Plus, there's all the birds to get straight. Am I a horrible person or just burnt out?
Sorry this is so long, and thanks for listening.
I constantly feel like I have lost myself somewhere in the process of becoming a wife and mother. I spiraled into such a deep depression that my husband threatened to leave me if I didn't get professional help. I'm better now but there are times when I just don't know who I am anymore.
This is constantly an issue when I just want some time to myself. Point in case, my DH's grandmother is in a home with a professional nurse, she lives there all the time with one other patient and the family of the nurse. The husband of said nurse is partnering with my DH this year for several hunting ventures (he has a guide service in another state). The last 10 times I have been to see Nanny with DH we are there for 5 minutes and then the husbands disappear for 2 hours and then come back for 5 minutes and we leave. I am left to talk to a woman that I barely know and who does not know me and to watch my two children and nurse's 2 children to make sure they don't break anything. (she has lots of antiques, very nice stuff).
Today, I wanted to stay home because our brahma chicks (7weeks old) have just been moved to the big coop and need to be put in there (this is day 2). We also moved our 10 2 week old ducklings to their pen and house last night and I need to be here to get everyone where they are supposed to be and locked up tight. I also don't want to go sit there for 2-3 hours while we all are starving and talk to people I don't know. He says, "if it was your grandmother things would be different". Well, yes it would be. I grew up with her, I have things to talk to her about, I KNOW her. She has also been lucid the entire time DH has known her. Nanny has had alzheimer's the entire time I've known her. I have driven her to doctor's appts., I have visited her in the nursing home EVERY DAY I was pregnant with my son, listened to her call me every name in the book, searched her house for things that "someone had stolen", stopped her from setting the house on fire, bought her groceries and clothes, and I am sorry, sometimes I just don't want to be around her.
I don't want to be selfish but I'm just tired of being left alone with her. My children don't really know her and she doesn't know them. It is just hard when she has alzheimers and I feel like I am constantly "stuck" with her.
I am sorry for the rant but I guess I just needed to vent cause now my hubby is pissed at me and probably will be for the next few days but I just don't want to go over there. Is that such a bad thing? I am hardly ever without my children and sometimes I just want to be by myself. Plus, there's all the birds to get straight. Am I a horrible person or just burnt out?
Sorry this is so long, and thanks for listening.