MorelCabin
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My son came home from school on Friday, told me he got in trouble with a group of boys at school because the boys he was with had intimidated a neighboring homeowner. My son says he was not involved, he stayed on the sidewalk during the whole episode, did not speak with this woman, and did not step on her property. The boys he was with (all except one of them) knocked on this woman's door to ask her why she was video taping them from her living room window...she got all upset and is apparently telling an inflated version of this story to the police.
Anyway, the school VP tried to call but I was out, and I haven't spoken to him about it yet. This incident happened on Thursday. I left a message with im on Thursday evening to say I had recieved his call and would discuss the incident with my sone, which I did.
I completely believe my son. I know it sounds biased, but I have raised 3 children and this one has always been an angel, has never lied to me, has never even given me any reason to ever raise my voice to him...yes he really is THAT good a kid...he is my blessing after a horrible experience with my first one and a not so great experience with my second:>) LOL! I never stick up for my kids when they are in the wrong, I believe that consequences for ones actions are a given. My oldest one ended up in juvie at 14, and I let it happen...he deserved it. My second I let fight her own battels...after all, she caused them with her own terrible attitude.
My youngest is loved by everyone he meets.
So anyway...
today he comes home and says that the kids were all brought to the VP's office and there was a social worker there from and outside source...that 'sourse' being the very one I begged and pleaded with for help with my oldest and was put on a 5 year waiting list...never got any...but now they are CHASING my youngest WHO DOESN"T NEED THIER HELP (ie: counselling programs, behavior modification programs, mental health issues etc) UGH!
They forced him to sign documents for a program...yup...CAN THEY DO THAT??? A 15 year old cannot sign authority without a parent present can they? He told them he didn't want to sign anything...I have always taught him never to sign anything if he was in trouble...but they FORCED him to sign 4 differnt documents and he doesn't know what they were for. This has 'illegal' written all over it!
On his way out of the office he told the man that 'they would definitely be hearing from his mother'
Darn Right!
So I look up this 'program' online...this is what I got:
"Peer Mediation/ Restorative Practices (top)
Peer Mediation/Restorative Practices service is available within the school setting for students who been involved with or affected by a specific school incident. This program is facilitated by the Peer Mediation/Restorative Practices facilitator from Hands, or by a fellow student who has been trained. The program is a voluntary process where every person involved has an equal voice.
Students who commit or participate in an offending behaviour at or against the school community are brought together with those who were directly affected by the offence in a meeting is that facilitated by a neutral party. The purpose for this integration is to repair the harm that was done by the offending behaviour. Parents, teachers and other school staff are welcome to participate in the meeting as appropriate. The incident is used as a learning tool that supports learning about social and conflict resolution skills while reducing the number of punitive consequences, such as a suspension or expulsion"
Am I over reacting by hunting this person down and telling him that under NO CIRCUMSTANCES should by child have been forced to sign anything after telling them he didn't want to? That if outside help was brought in to this incident I should have been notified, that they are causing undue stress on my son with their 'program' just by the way they are initiating it...and that if it is so VOLUNTARY why was he forced to sign up for it...
Something aboiut this really leaves a sour tast in my mouth...I hate programs...
Anyway, the school VP tried to call but I was out, and I haven't spoken to him about it yet. This incident happened on Thursday. I left a message with im on Thursday evening to say I had recieved his call and would discuss the incident with my sone, which I did.
I completely believe my son. I know it sounds biased, but I have raised 3 children and this one has always been an angel, has never lied to me, has never even given me any reason to ever raise my voice to him...yes he really is THAT good a kid...he is my blessing after a horrible experience with my first one and a not so great experience with my second:>) LOL! I never stick up for my kids when they are in the wrong, I believe that consequences for ones actions are a given. My oldest one ended up in juvie at 14, and I let it happen...he deserved it. My second I let fight her own battels...after all, she caused them with her own terrible attitude.
My youngest is loved by everyone he meets.
So anyway...
today he comes home and says that the kids were all brought to the VP's office and there was a social worker there from and outside source...that 'sourse' being the very one I begged and pleaded with for help with my oldest and was put on a 5 year waiting list...never got any...but now they are CHASING my youngest WHO DOESN"T NEED THIER HELP (ie: counselling programs, behavior modification programs, mental health issues etc) UGH!
They forced him to sign documents for a program...yup...CAN THEY DO THAT??? A 15 year old cannot sign authority without a parent present can they? He told them he didn't want to sign anything...I have always taught him never to sign anything if he was in trouble...but they FORCED him to sign 4 differnt documents and he doesn't know what they were for. This has 'illegal' written all over it!
On his way out of the office he told the man that 'they would definitely be hearing from his mother'
Darn Right!
So I look up this 'program' online...this is what I got:
"Peer Mediation/ Restorative Practices (top)
Peer Mediation/Restorative Practices service is available within the school setting for students who been involved with or affected by a specific school incident. This program is facilitated by the Peer Mediation/Restorative Practices facilitator from Hands, or by a fellow student who has been trained. The program is a voluntary process where every person involved has an equal voice.
Students who commit or participate in an offending behaviour at or against the school community are brought together with those who were directly affected by the offence in a meeting is that facilitated by a neutral party. The purpose for this integration is to repair the harm that was done by the offending behaviour. Parents, teachers and other school staff are welcome to participate in the meeting as appropriate. The incident is used as a learning tool that supports learning about social and conflict resolution skills while reducing the number of punitive consequences, such as a suspension or expulsion"
Am I over reacting by hunting this person down and telling him that under NO CIRCUMSTANCES should by child have been forced to sign anything after telling them he didn't want to? That if outside help was brought in to this incident I should have been notified, that they are causing undue stress on my son with their 'program' just by the way they are initiating it...and that if it is so VOLUNTARY why was he forced to sign up for it...
Something aboiut this really leaves a sour tast in my mouth...I hate programs...