It sounds like your DH's love language is gift giving. So his way of showing you his love is buying you a gift that will make you happy and that you can enjoy. When you tell him something that he can 'actually give' you then that makes him happy!
It sounds like your love language is Acts of Service. You want him to get the fence done, you want to give the massage rather than pay for one....you want to do something for him and you want him to do something for you and that makes you feel happy.
It also sounds like his other love language is quality time...a little bit of just one on one you and him time....that is why he wants to go out just the two of you. Is your DH the type of guy who wants you out there while he is working on a project? Like planting trees...does he just want you out there?
It sounds like your love language is Acts of Service. You want him to get the fence done, you want to give the massage rather than pay for one....you want to do something for him and you want him to do something for you and that makes you feel happy.
It also sounds like his other love language is quality time...a little bit of just one on one you and him time....that is why he wants to go out just the two of you. Is your DH the type of guy who wants you out there while he is working on a project? Like planting trees...does he just want you out there?