That is fine to help out and take care of him but not at your expense. Do what you can for him, when you can. Your mother would have NEVER wanted you to do it at your own health expense.
So, I decided I was NOT going to let "him" win. I won't let him(stepdad) make me a scrooge this holiday season. Altho...he ALMOST won! First of all I was depressed...terribly. He had gotten rid of everything that has to do with my mom. OK, material things...I get it. But I just needed some "me and God time" So thats what I did. I went to the woods..to meditate, and pray. Unfortunately, it was cold, and I wasnt feeling my best. Not a good combo. I sat, I cried, I prayed...then...I slept!!!!! Not too long I dont think...but I awoke freezing!! I am so lucky I woke up! He almost won...again. But, now I have all that out of my system...and I am back to my old self again. Ready to celebrate the birth of Christ...and to remember my mother..the way she would want me to. Hubby and I put out the decorations. I know we are wasteing alot of money with all the lights, however, it lifts MY spirits just looking at them.
The front door...Welcome Christmas Spirit!!!
The front "yard" All lit up...
So, now I can move on...past the anger, and hate...and dissapointments. I want to thank all of you for bareing with me through this tough spot.