dragonlaurel
Improvising a more SS life
This is not to anyone in particular- just My opinions.
I know all you parents are trying to do things the best you can.
I believe that parents need to make children take them seriously when very young. Then they have a habit of listening and mostly obeying before they get big. Be consistent about the rules. Make them know some things are off limits at their age, and other things are never acceptable. Let them know that bad actions have consequences they wont like. Different punishments still work better for different kids. Talk to them about cause and effect in ways they can understand. Example - comparing jail to being on restriction for years- because a grown up did something really bad. It's good for them to know every body has rules they are supposed to follow and can get in trouble if they don't. Kids hear enough news to find a good example. Many kids respond to you asking leading questions that lead to "was that being nice or fair".
I grew up babysitting and one family told me I had permission to spank if needed. In 7 years with their 4 kids- I only spanked once. Toddler with a hand in the knife drawer. One swat stopped the action and then I talked to them about it. It never happened again. I told them the only reason I did it was because that was dangerous and that I still loved them all and wanted them to be safe.
Same kid liked to bully. I'd tell him to stop or he was going to be in trouble. If he continued I made him go to his room. He hated that, but that's why it worked. Once he quieted down in there, I'd go say good night and tuck him in if he was sleepy. If he was wide awake but calmer- I'd ask if he was ready to be nice to his little brother. He normally said yes. I'd tell him, "you remember that or you'll be by yourself again and everybody else will still be playing". He behaved better for me than for other people. He knew I would be fun, and fair, but I would NOT back down.
I was hit alot growing up and most of it was due to the parent not handling stress well. ( Came home in a bad mood from work and took it out on me. ) I realized quickly that it was not my fault and that I needed to escape fast when there was a certain attitude. The neighbors should have reported it , but never did. Court ordered family counseling, anger management, and parenting classes would have been a big help.
I will only give a quick spank over something that is dangerous. Other than that, whatever works - use it.
Good luck everybody.
I know all you parents are trying to do things the best you can.
I believe that parents need to make children take them seriously when very young. Then they have a habit of listening and mostly obeying before they get big. Be consistent about the rules. Make them know some things are off limits at their age, and other things are never acceptable. Let them know that bad actions have consequences they wont like. Different punishments still work better for different kids. Talk to them about cause and effect in ways they can understand. Example - comparing jail to being on restriction for years- because a grown up did something really bad. It's good for them to know every body has rules they are supposed to follow and can get in trouble if they don't. Kids hear enough news to find a good example. Many kids respond to you asking leading questions that lead to "was that being nice or fair".
I grew up babysitting and one family told me I had permission to spank if needed. In 7 years with their 4 kids- I only spanked once. Toddler with a hand in the knife drawer. One swat stopped the action and then I talked to them about it. It never happened again. I told them the only reason I did it was because that was dangerous and that I still loved them all and wanted them to be safe.
Same kid liked to bully. I'd tell him to stop or he was going to be in trouble. If he continued I made him go to his room. He hated that, but that's why it worked. Once he quieted down in there, I'd go say good night and tuck him in if he was sleepy. If he was wide awake but calmer- I'd ask if he was ready to be nice to his little brother. He normally said yes. I'd tell him, "you remember that or you'll be by yourself again and everybody else will still be playing". He behaved better for me than for other people. He knew I would be fun, and fair, but I would NOT back down.
I was hit alot growing up and most of it was due to the parent not handling stress well. ( Came home in a bad mood from work and took it out on me. ) I realized quickly that it was not my fault and that I needed to escape fast when there was a certain attitude. The neighbors should have reported it , but never did. Court ordered family counseling, anger management, and parenting classes would have been a big help.
I will only give a quick spank over something that is dangerous. Other than that, whatever works - use it.
Good luck everybody.
That mental image is funny- but we don't want to scare anybody. 
Besides, digging while dancing would be hard work. The closest I have to cloven hooves is high heels. I could pole dance (a little) with my hickory walking stick. Will that work? :bun 
Thank goodness they Divorced. 
She couldn't escape it. 
