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There was a time when I didn't have a job, and so I was at home all day and the other half worked. I often resented the fact that he would come home so tired and I was excited and wanted to interact and talk and do things. I kept up the house, and was very happy with it.
Now we both have full time jobs, and it is a challenge for me to even get half of what I used to get done. I look forward to the day when I'll be able to focus on our home/farm for our own good.
The way that I look at it, (assuming things work out as we are hoping), I won't HAVE to work to bring in income. His job should support everything that we need income wise, so my time at home will be spent maintaining what we have, and producing results that will save us money and keep us healthy. If I do work, it will likely be part time as supplemental income/learning experience for our farm. But being at home won't mean that I am not working. Being at home will mean that maintaining everything at home is my job. If I stay clear about that, it will help me to stress less about it and to focus on working hard for the support of the bigger picture, even though I don't get paid by hourly wage or have a specific amount of vacation time. I know that it is going to be very hard for me some days to stay motivated, but the flexibility will be a good thing too.
That leads me to the point that it might be good to step back and evaluate what you do each day. What are the things that get done daily? Weekly? Monthly? Where does your time go? In doing this a few things might be discovered - maybe there are things that are being done that don't NEED to be done as frequently. Maybe there are things that should be done more often. Maybe it is a case of biting off more than one can chew (I do that ALL the time! Very hard to say 'no' sometimes!). Viewing it objectively as the current status of the "job" of staying home might help both you (and your partner) find a better way to create more balance for you. Everyone needs a balance of "work" and "play" in order to stay sane and healthy. Without your health, the "job" suffers, and thus the family suffers. If you and your partner have the clarity together, then it may be that everyone in the family is more willing to pitch in to help get the "job" done for the good of everyone's stress levels. For me, that kind of clarity and objective view can really help me get refocused and put my effort where it belongs, rather than spinning my wheels away about something else, or the 'not knowing' of where my time, energy (and possibly money) is going.
Best of luck to you! Remember, the only constant in the universe is change!
Now we both have full time jobs, and it is a challenge for me to even get half of what I used to get done. I look forward to the day when I'll be able to focus on our home/farm for our own good.
The way that I look at it, (assuming things work out as we are hoping), I won't HAVE to work to bring in income. His job should support everything that we need income wise, so my time at home will be spent maintaining what we have, and producing results that will save us money and keep us healthy. If I do work, it will likely be part time as supplemental income/learning experience for our farm. But being at home won't mean that I am not working. Being at home will mean that maintaining everything at home is my job. If I stay clear about that, it will help me to stress less about it and to focus on working hard for the support of the bigger picture, even though I don't get paid by hourly wage or have a specific amount of vacation time. I know that it is going to be very hard for me some days to stay motivated, but the flexibility will be a good thing too.
That leads me to the point that it might be good to step back and evaluate what you do each day. What are the things that get done daily? Weekly? Monthly? Where does your time go? In doing this a few things might be discovered - maybe there are things that are being done that don't NEED to be done as frequently. Maybe there are things that should be done more often. Maybe it is a case of biting off more than one can chew (I do that ALL the time! Very hard to say 'no' sometimes!). Viewing it objectively as the current status of the "job" of staying home might help both you (and your partner) find a better way to create more balance for you. Everyone needs a balance of "work" and "play" in order to stay sane and healthy. Without your health, the "job" suffers, and thus the family suffers. If you and your partner have the clarity together, then it may be that everyone in the family is more willing to pitch in to help get the "job" done for the good of everyone's stress levels. For me, that kind of clarity and objective view can really help me get refocused and put my effort where it belongs, rather than spinning my wheels away about something else, or the 'not knowing' of where my time, energy (and possibly money) is going.
Best of luck to you! Remember, the only constant in the universe is change!
