Wannabefree...guess what I got in the mail today!?!?!?!?

[Wannabefree]

She is mostly, 13 though...so that's a changin! Lol, she's still a great kid! If I could take her with me I would, and she knows that. Generally I just get her out of here on the weekends and we go be ourselves for a while. It keeps us both sane. We hang out with friends or find activities to do, or whatever and usually stay out ALL day Saturday. This weekend she has been sick, and running fever, so we didn't get to do anything except hang out here in the war zone with these 2 hovering over micromanaging every breath she takes. I've told her to be patient till I get situated with a new place and she has the option of being my little roomie if she wishes. I'll catch 40 levels of hell for it and it'll probably cost me a ton of lawyer fees, but whatever. I'm always up for a challenge.

 

[sumi]

Aww, she'll be worth it. Tell her to get better soon!

 

[Wannabefree]

She is feeling better, I think they're going to take her to church with them today.

 

[frustratedearthmother]

Oh man, I'm so glad she has you!

 

[Wannabefree]

Yeah...me too...she is my best friend a lot of days, but she understands I have to discipline her too. I'm not hard on her. We usually discuss things and she has amazing reasoning skills given the opportunity to be heard...which she isn't here. I feel bad for her, but I also know how it effects her and how she will be a stronger woman for having met some obstacles. It's hard to watch some days though. And I'm trying to give her options. My divorce hasn't left me with a ton of options that don't require massive amounts of patience so...we are both kind of stuck and leaning on each other right now. She's a good kid, she will survive and thrive. We don't know any other way but silver linings lol

 

[NH Homesteader]

Kids can get through a lot when they have someone in their corner that they can rely on. I'm glad she has you for that, and maybe you can get her out of there

 

[Wannabefree]

Having lived through it, and got my sister out at 16, I'm not positive getting her out is the route I want to take as much as guiding her through it though. I'd like her to have options if it becomes overwhelming, and for my place to be her haven, but I also want her to face certain things in life head on and develop good strong coping skills because let's be honest, the world in general isn't getting any nicer. With my sister, it was a physical safety issue, and she was too far gone, thus the niece being here the last 11 years to begin with because my sister chose unhealthy coping mechanisms not conducive to child rearing...it's so complicated, and I'm so torn about it at times. I want what's best for the child. Period. And sometimes that line gets blurred with people because love is often blind. I'd walk through fire for this kid. She's the closest thing to me ever having my own biological offspring, and I love her beyond reason. Let that be clear, but facing resistance makes you strong, and her personality will not be harmed by this situation. I've already seen it has put a fire in her heart for better things for herself for her future, and I don't want her to lose that by becoming complacent in a different environment. I'm not sure that wouldn't be a disservice to her as much as I'd love to save her from all this. We learn profound things by being in the middle of not so ideal situations. If she needs me, I'm here till my last breath. But I'm not a "helicopter" style parental example by any means. I just took up for her yesterday because I hate when it gets so horribly one sided but she is not afraid to fight for herself, and she and they all know there better never be physical blows like when I was coming up or I'll do a full sweep and take the bullies down and take her to a safer place in an instant.

 

[Wannabefree]

Well poo...I've got deliveries to make in a bit. Then I'm packing up and moving my butt to a more reasonable abode for the week. I may be in and out today, but this afternoon is going to be peace and quiet time for me. I needs silence to think and plan my next conquest lol! Then more deliveries tomorrow and a boat load of posting items for sale and probably more deliveries through the week...the load..she's getting lighter!!!

 

[Wannabefree]

And I just heard someone sneeze and I'm the only one here...

 

[sumi]

Haunted home?

Good luck with your projects for today!