Well, I finally came to the conclusion that I am married to a self-absorbed, thoughtless jerk (and I say that in the lovingest way ) and I could either divorce him or work around his character flaws and find ways to meet our goals anyway.
I thought about it. And I DO love him. And I think being without him would be pretty miserable. So, I decided that I would try the work-around solution.
I dare not give him control of the finances. He's never shown any aptitude for keeping that in order! (shudder)
Quitting my job is also indirectly related to this. The little bit of extra income my job generates seems to do nothing but make him lust after electronics. Back when I wasn't working before and we didn't have the extra money, he didn't bawl at me about 'can I have a new video game' all the time.
Based on that, I would suggest that you invest as much money as you can in constructive places and reduce as much as possible the amount he considers 'extra.' Like open college funds, and medical emergency funds and saving for a new (whatever) funds. Not all at once, though.
Present ideas of self sufficiency to him through media that he finds appealing, if you can. I mean, how did YOU begin to become SS? For me, I just wanted to learn how to can green beans and an innocent google search opened up the whole world to me. What is he interested in and how can you relate it to SS for him?
So, basically, I have no idea. But those might be some things to try. LOL
And don't worry about the 'jerk' remark. I call him that to his face all the time. And will kiss him right on the mouth afterwards! :bun
Cassandra
I thought about it. And I DO love him. And I think being without him would be pretty miserable. So, I decided that I would try the work-around solution.
I dare not give him control of the finances. He's never shown any aptitude for keeping that in order! (shudder)
Quitting my job is also indirectly related to this. The little bit of extra income my job generates seems to do nothing but make him lust after electronics. Back when I wasn't working before and we didn't have the extra money, he didn't bawl at me about 'can I have a new video game' all the time.
Based on that, I would suggest that you invest as much money as you can in constructive places and reduce as much as possible the amount he considers 'extra.' Like open college funds, and medical emergency funds and saving for a new (whatever) funds. Not all at once, though.
Present ideas of self sufficiency to him through media that he finds appealing, if you can. I mean, how did YOU begin to become SS? For me, I just wanted to learn how to can green beans and an innocent google search opened up the whole world to me. What is he interested in and how can you relate it to SS for him?
So, basically, I have no idea. But those might be some things to try. LOL
And don't worry about the 'jerk' remark. I call him that to his face all the time. And will kiss him right on the mouth afterwards! :bun
Cassandra