Anyone else 'going at it alone'?

[Chic Rustler]

It seems that just about everyone references spouses, significant others, kids, parents or other family as sharing chores or helping with the work. I was just wondering how many others out there are doing it alone?
OK... not REALLY alone because of the wealth of info online and neighbors that can be called in occasionally - but getting through the day to day, in & outs alone.

Not me, wife and 4 kids. But on the up side, you have less mouths to feed so you dont need as much garden, livestock, etc.

 

[canesisters]

I guess yall are right. Just feeling a little sorry for myself after what seems like weeks of working by flashlight in the rain.
It won't be so bad once the days get a little bit longer.

 

[NH Homesteader]

I understand how you feel though, this time of year is hard. Spring brings a change of heart many years. I for one am anxious for warmer and brighter days.

 

[wyoDreamer]

so many times I wish I could "go it alone" just so I could get something done "my way" instead of compromising what I want with what DH thinks need to be done. Many things would be very different and easier without his input - but I do appreciate the fact that he is willing to help. He is stronger than I am, so that is a plus.

 

[Beekissed]

so many times I wish I could "go it alone" just so I could get something done "my way" instead of compromising what I want with what DH thinks need to be done. Many things would be very different and easier without his input - but I do appreciate the fact that he is willing to help. He is stronger than I am, so that is a plus.

I agree with this. Every time I start to feel cheated because I have to do everything alone...and poorly, I might add, as I'm no good at construction...I always remind myself of how many women have to ask permission to do this or that on the land, have to wait upon the time or will of a man in order to proceed on such things, etc.

Freedom to do what one wants, when one wants to do it, however one wants to do it is a great trade off. No one criticizing technique or design, no one expressing doubts if something will work or not, etc. To me, that's priceless.

Many is the time over the years I've lamented not having a husband, a working partner to help me in my life....but now I just thank God my prayers were not answered in the way I had wanted. I've learned a lot, I've learned that if I want something done I don't wait around for someone else to do it or help me do it, and I've learned the sweet value of being alone, working alone and enjoying the fruits of my labor alone.

 

[Mini Horses]

He is stronger than I am, so that is a plus.

My tractor is named "Arnie" … after Arnold S...the terminator.

Many is the time over the years I've lamented not having a husband, a working partner to help me in my life....but now I just thank God my prayers were not answered in the way I had wanted

"Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers. "

And I agree with the rest of it, too. Other than an occasional urge to express my immediate feelings to another, I'm really OK alone for many of the reasons you mention. My late DH was perfect for me and always supportive. Won't be another, they'd never measure up.

 

[baymule]

Y'all that are alone, look at it this way...…. Would you REALLY want to house break and train another spouse?

 

[Beekissed]

Y'all that are alone, look at it this way...…. Would you REALLY want to house break and train another spouse?

Not for all the money in the world. When I was young I would tolerate fools and love covered many sins, but now that I'm old my tolerance level is zero and even love wouldn't blind me any longer.

 

[Rammy]

Dont miss it at all.

 

[canesisters]

Y'all that are alone, look at it this way...…. Would you REALLY want to house break and train another spouse?

LOL. I'm afraid that I'm way too 'set in my ways' to be tolerated by a new man.
But some days I think it would be SO nice to be able to call someone and say "Hey, can you start dinner and feed the dogs? I'm still waiting on Mr. Farmer to come load a round bale and by the time I get home and get it in the field it's going to be 8:30 or later." Or to have someone to hold the other end of a board, or point a light, or....