Colowyo - grudgingly settling in :P

[colowyo0809]

Well you have people using the work GAY when they mean LAME or STUPID. Then the term gets used for anything that might be traditionally considered feminine, wimpy or otherwise less than macho.

Now if someone had a piece of homoerotic art on their mantle, I would come out and call it gay!

If someone gave hubby flowers, I would not call him gay for liking them.

Now I do call him a "girl" when he acts squeemish....like when I mention eating one of the ducks. I guess I should stop that. I really am denigrating my own gender on that. I'll just go back to calling him a city kid when he does it next time

exactly. thank you
incidentally, i often refer to CJ as my wife, mainly because he's referred to himself that way. our relationship follows alot of the traditional relationships lines, although lately thats changed a bit. now he brings home more money than I do! But, even though we work about the same, he still makes dinner in the evening and breakfast in the morning, with me helping out occasionally. its not something we planned, its just how it works out But then, I do the heavy lifting, empty the mousetraps, clean up the animal stuff if they have an accident, etc so it evens out

ah, I see they edited my post. not sure why they took it all instead of just the bad words but ok! I did expect it after all

 

[Farmfresh]

It is interesting how couples just assume those different roles.

My hubby and I each have had our family roles for years and we just do what we do. They don't necessarily follow gender roles either for that matter.

I have ALWAYS mowed the lawn and cared for the gardens, done the dishes, much of the laundry, paid the bills and done the shopping.

He has always maintained the appliances, furnace, etc.., shared cooking, shared some of the laundry, kept the job that kept us fed and done all of the BIG work on the vehicles.

We just do what we do.

 

[hillfarm]

I think everyone has to have thick skin or everything would overwhelm ya. But I am a firm believer that speaking out is how to make the change. People are ignorant till educated. So telling people you do not like something is a good start.

I was at a football game where the parent yelled at her little boy to stop running like a girl. I was sitting with my daughter and her friend. So I politely said "what's wrong with how girl's run? My daughter is a great runner and I am offended that you would asociate being female with being a bad thing. I'm sure other girls' wouldn't like that too." The woman rolled her eyes. Then her daughter goes "ya mom, give it a rest."

I wanted to high five the lil girl. It shut the mom up. She doesnt speak to me and walks out of her way not to get near me. Which is fine by me. I have plenty of people who dont enjoy my outspokeness. But then I have my good friends who love it.

One of my daughter's friends came out to me before his parents, I was so touched he trusted me so much and he wanted me to know. He calls me his other mama.

Here's to hoping the world gets a clue and opens their heart.

 

[Wifezilla]

I politely said "what's wrong with how girl's run? My daughter is a great runner and I am offended that you would asociate being female with being a bad thing. I'm sure other girls' wouldn't like that too." The woman rolled her eyes. Then her daughter goes "ya mom, give it a rest."

Bwaa haa haa!!!

 

[colowyo0809]

I am trying so hard, and failing, to keep myself distracted. I am seriously two seconds away from driving to texas and slapping the snot out of some punquertrois!! some days i would like to just find a way to avoid people all together, then I don't have to kill them!!

*sigh* I am letting it go, I am letting it go, I am letting it go. I am moving on, I am moving on I am moving on. *deep in, deep out*, repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat.

So, someone asked me what I was going to do as my next ss task.

Goals
Put the bulbs arriving today into the ground
yay they are here! will use some to pay BIL to do my oil change!
finish winterizing the coop
almost done, just need to do the west side when the sun gets on that side!
changing the oil on my car before the trip to mt
see above
finding the gaps and cracks and sealing them up in the trailer
- this includes putting plastic on the windows
finding a way to cover the swamp cooler
found covers at Home Depot, now just gonna wait til payday and buy one only $30 so that ain't soooo bad
preserve the pumpkins
have three pie punkins in the oven now, going to freeze them yay! thanks again for the thought process peoples!
seriously need to get myself centered and grounded
this is an ongoing thing, but listening to classical/celtic music helps, as does being active. and putting it out of my mind

 

[colowyo0809]

I think everyone has to have thick skin or everything would overwhelm ya. But I am a firm believer that speaking out is how to make the change. People are ignorant till educated. So telling people you do not like something is a good start.

I was at a football game where the parent yelled at her little boy to stop running like a girl. I was sitting with my daughter and her friend. So I politely said "what's wrong with how girl's run? My daughter is a great runner and I am offended that you would asociate being female with being a bad thing. I'm sure other girls' wouldn't like that too." The woman rolled her eyes. Then her daughter goes "ya mom, give it a rest."

I wanted to high five the lil girl. It shut the mom up. She doesnt speak to me and walks out of her way not to get near me. Which is fine by me. I have plenty of people who dont enjoy my outspokeness. But then I have my good friends who love it.

One of my daughter's friends came out to me before his parents, I was so touched he trusted me so much and he wanted me to know. He calls me his other mama.

Here's to hoping the world gets a clue and opens their heart.

I said it before, I'm saying it again, I like you you remind me of me!

 

[noobiechickenlady]

Deep breath, man! Ahhh, traditional roles be blasted.
DH is a stay at home dad who homeschools, does laundry, cooks and cleans.
I'm the money maker & the one under the sink with a wrench when something goes wrong, or using a pickaxe on our hard as rock clay.
Those are "his" pots & pans, the toolbox is "mine". He wants a new coffeemaker, I want a new drill.

My mother lists yet another reason she doesn't like my husband as "He's supposed to support YOU. You should be at home and he should have a job." Not even, we tried that. I'm much better as a part time domestic and he has a hard time working for idiots

It's about finding your roll, not the one you are "supposed" to be in.

Hillfarm, that is just hilarous!

 

[colowyo0809]

Deep breath, man! Ahhh, traditional roles be blasted.
DH is a stay at home dad who homeschools, does laundry, cooks and cleans.
I'm the money maker & the one under the sink with a wrench when something goes wrong, or using a pickaxe on our hard as rock clay.
Those are "his" pots & pans, the toolbox is "mine". He wants a new coffeemaker, I want a new drill.

My mother lists yet another reason she doesn't like my husband as "He's supposed to support YOU. You should be at home and he should have a job." Not even, we tried that. I'm much better as a part time domestic and he has a hard time working for idiots

It's about finding your roll, not the one you are "supposed" to be in.

Hillfarm, that is just hilarous!

exactly!
if we ever do adopt i'll definitly be the stay at home dad, cooks, cleans, home schools and does the gardening, livestock, etc cj will be the money maker

 

[Wifezilla]

There are times when I was the breadwinner. There were times when hubby was the breadwinner. I think every couple should see both sides of it regardless of where you end up. Honestly going to work is easier. You have breaks. You get direct feedback on your performance. You don't have to clean up anyone's poo

When you are home with the kids you do your best and hope 25 years later you can be proud of what you did! Plus there is lots of poo involved. Always! LOL

Hubby mops and does dishes. I cook, but I was the one under the car this weekend trying to find an exhaust leak (found it! LOL). I would rather do yard work than touch dishes. We do what needs to be done. We are about the same size and physically he is stronger than me, but not by much.

Roles scmoles! None of society's business who does what.

 

[hillfarm]

aww, thank you. I am very flattered. I enjoy the snot of you too.

Just wish I had your energy. You are always cooking and working on something. I tend to find thirty other things that want to take my time first. Oh well.

Have a safe trip. BTW.