Beekissed
Mountain Sage
CC, MIL is definitely into her own cognitive decline and your dad needs to be kept safer in a facility. I know it's hard to come to that conclusion, but we had to make the same thing happen here.
Dad is now in a facility....his was difficult because he first had to be involuntarily committed to a state mental hospital(he hadn't seen a doctor in many years and refused to see one)...he was becoming such a danger to himself and mother that we finally insisted she DO something. I won't go into the details but suffice to say everything else was done to try and prevent this step but it was best in the end. He was safe and so was she.
Then mother was living back in the boonies by herself, so I moved away from my home and moved in with her so that she could stay in her own home as long as possible. Since I'm a nurse, I will be keeping her here throughout her life, so no facility for her unless something happens to me.
Your dad needs to be safe and your MIL needs to be in an assisted care facility, which could be right in the same facility if you look around. Often they are together so people can transition from one to the other when it's time.
You and your sibs need to get together and have a serious talk before your Dad comes to grief out there the next time he proposes to leave...my Dad drove clear across the state, looking for Mom, who was right there at the house when he left.
Then you need to go together and tell MIL Dad needs to be where he can be kept safer and that she simply cannot handle him at home, especially not as this progresses. If she refuses to listen, you can wait until the next incident~say a fall or him leaving the home unattended and confused, and report it to your local APC and they will take it from there.
Facts are it only gets worse from here on out and, if she's having trouble now, she's inadequate to care for him and it sounds like she can't even care for herself properly.
Dad is now in a facility....his was difficult because he first had to be involuntarily committed to a state mental hospital(he hadn't seen a doctor in many years and refused to see one)...he was becoming such a danger to himself and mother that we finally insisted she DO something. I won't go into the details but suffice to say everything else was done to try and prevent this step but it was best in the end. He was safe and so was she.
Then mother was living back in the boonies by herself, so I moved away from my home and moved in with her so that she could stay in her own home as long as possible. Since I'm a nurse, I will be keeping her here throughout her life, so no facility for her unless something happens to me.
Your dad needs to be safe and your MIL needs to be in an assisted care facility, which could be right in the same facility if you look around. Often they are together so people can transition from one to the other when it's time.
You and your sibs need to get together and have a serious talk before your Dad comes to grief out there the next time he proposes to leave...my Dad drove clear across the state, looking for Mom, who was right there at the house when he left.
Then you need to go together and tell MIL Dad needs to be where he can be kept safer and that she simply cannot handle him at home, especially not as this progresses. If she refuses to listen, you can wait until the next incident~say a fall or him leaving the home unattended and confused, and report it to your local APC and they will take it from there.
Facts are it only gets worse from here on out and, if she's having trouble now, she's inadequate to care for him and it sounds like she can't even care for herself properly.
