flowerbug
Sustainability Master
really that was the only title that fits this morning's conversations.
well it actually started Wednesday evening, because Mom went to visit some friends of hers and she has always talked to me and has it in her living will that she doesn't want anything done if something happens. basically DNR with very minor care to take care of pain, but nothing else, no breathing tubes, no feeding, etc. when she's done, she says she wants to be done (at times we think we're both well done already but that's a whole 'nother aside
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when she came back i mentioned to her that she should have a bracelet or necklace or something with her which reflects her wishes just in case something happens (she gets in an accident, has a heart attack, who knows, but when she's not here). we already have all the legal paperwork done with the power of attourney and medical wishes stuff and who's the executor, etc.
but how do you keep the people who may come along from hauling you away, taking you to the hospital, running up who knows how many bills and then expecting you to foot them when in fact you don't want any of it?
this topic also comes about from a recent event with a few other distant people we know. one person had a stroke while driving, went off the road and ended up in the ditch. the only reason they are still alive is that their partner was driving behind them and saw it happen and someone else came along and gave them CPR. me, i want to be left alone to die right there. i'm done. so does Mom. instead they were taken to a medical center, not breathing, put on ventilator, eventually able to come off it but paralyzed on left side, probably permanently. um, no, not for me, feed me to the worms, and get on with your lives. that's all to do please for me. and for Mom too, but she wants to be fried (cremated).
this all is the pre-amble this morning where Mom is talking to my sister on the phone and brings up the topic and asks her about what to do and my sister says something about getting some paperwork and filling it out and making sure to always have it with you. so of course Mom translates the paperwork into "Death Wish" and we're talking about it and laughing and my sister is too, i can hear her on the phone with Mom. i have the keyboard on my belly typing and i'm laughing so Mom has to tell my sister my keyboard is jiggling from me laughing.
this is not an unusual morning for us. we usually find a way to laugh about something.
well it actually started Wednesday evening, because Mom went to visit some friends of hers and she has always talked to me and has it in her living will that she doesn't want anything done if something happens. basically DNR with very minor care to take care of pain, but nothing else, no breathing tubes, no feeding, etc. when she's done, she says she wants to be done (at times we think we're both well done already but that's a whole 'nother aside
)...when she came back i mentioned to her that she should have a bracelet or necklace or something with her which reflects her wishes just in case something happens (she gets in an accident, has a heart attack, who knows, but when she's not here). we already have all the legal paperwork done with the power of attourney and medical wishes stuff and who's the executor, etc.
but how do you keep the people who may come along from hauling you away, taking you to the hospital, running up who knows how many bills and then expecting you to foot them when in fact you don't want any of it?
this topic also comes about from a recent event with a few other distant people we know. one person had a stroke while driving, went off the road and ended up in the ditch. the only reason they are still alive is that their partner was driving behind them and saw it happen and someone else came along and gave them CPR. me, i want to be left alone to die right there. i'm done. so does Mom. instead they were taken to a medical center, not breathing, put on ventilator, eventually able to come off it but paralyzed on left side, probably permanently. um, no, not for me, feed me to the worms, and get on with your lives. that's all to do please for me. and for Mom too, but she wants to be fried (cremated).
this all is the pre-amble this morning where Mom is talking to my sister on the phone and brings up the topic and asks her about what to do and my sister says something about getting some paperwork and filling it out and making sure to always have it with you. so of course Mom translates the paperwork into "Death Wish" and we're talking about it and laughing and my sister is too, i can hear her on the phone with Mom. i have the keyboard on my belly typing and i'm laughing so Mom has to tell my sister my keyboard is jiggling from me laughing.
this is not an unusual morning for us. we usually find a way to laugh about something.
