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Beekissed
Mountain Sage
We make immediate goals and long range goals also and we discuss them and adapt often with the changing times and needs.
But the goals we had established as recently as this last year we've taken a second look at. We don't get too wrapped up in solid plans, but we do dream quite a bit as to how we want to finish up our lives here.....where we want to live, what kind of house, what kind of lifestyle, etc.
I don't find this ridiculous, I find this allows us to focus on what is important to us.
My oldest had planned to make a little nest egg at the oil field job he had acquired, maybe marry his gal and she would go to college out in WY where he lived. Now, I don't ordinarily encourage kids to marry before age 25 or even later.....I would like to see them finish college and get a good paying job before even contemplating marriage. But I'm thinking now, if they want to marry....two incomes are better than one, two people can support each other emotionally through the pitfalls....as long as they don't rush into children, I'm thinking I won't make a fuss if they should happen to marry next year.
The middle son was planning on, after his Guards training, heading out to Ft. Collins, CO, to Vet school. Now that his brother is moving to VA(right across the border from me), I would like him to rethink his school location and maybe try a university in VA. Stay a little closer in case he gets in a bind, in case his brother needs help, just in case....
Before, I had encouraged them to spread their wings to far points of the nation....I had always wanted to do so and never had gotten there.
Now, I'm thinking we can help each other more if we stay a little closer, share expenses when we can. They can eat more from what I can grow on this place if they live a little closer. Eventually, I would like to see us go together on housing or land and build towards SS together.
Surprisingly enough, the boys are starting to see the sense in this type of planning......
But the goals we had established as recently as this last year we've taken a second look at. We don't get too wrapped up in solid plans, but we do dream quite a bit as to how we want to finish up our lives here.....where we want to live, what kind of house, what kind of lifestyle, etc.
I don't find this ridiculous, I find this allows us to focus on what is important to us.
My oldest had planned to make a little nest egg at the oil field job he had acquired, maybe marry his gal and she would go to college out in WY where he lived. Now, I don't ordinarily encourage kids to marry before age 25 or even later.....I would like to see them finish college and get a good paying job before even contemplating marriage. But I'm thinking now, if they want to marry....two incomes are better than one, two people can support each other emotionally through the pitfalls....as long as they don't rush into children, I'm thinking I won't make a fuss if they should happen to marry next year.
The middle son was planning on, after his Guards training, heading out to Ft. Collins, CO, to Vet school. Now that his brother is moving to VA(right across the border from me), I would like him to rethink his school location and maybe try a university in VA. Stay a little closer in case he gets in a bind, in case his brother needs help, just in case....
Before, I had encouraged them to spread their wings to far points of the nation....I had always wanted to do so and never had gotten there.
Now, I'm thinking we can help each other more if we stay a little closer, share expenses when we can. They can eat more from what I can grow on this place if they live a little closer. Eventually, I would like to see us go together on housing or land and build towards SS together.
Surprisingly enough, the boys are starting to see the sense in this type of planning......