How would you handle somone's insistence in this situation?

[garden pixy]

I hate how people keep pushing the 'a little won't hurt' BS when it comes to my children, my children eat very good, fresh, real food and don't react well to most processed food, large amounts of refined sugars, and artificial sweeteners, more than once i have had to tell my mother in law, go ahead give him a sip of your chemical juice, you get to clean up the puke and poop-splosions later.

 

[Kala]

Yes, I think the addition of ambulance bills should help! I may have to tell my aunt to use that one sometime!

And on the backing down part! Glad your good to go!

I don't pretend to know everything, and I think the best thing a person can do is realize their own ignorance in a lot of situations like this. If I'm not an expert in it, and especially if I don't have ANY experience in it at all, I am certaintly not going to tell someone they'll be ok "Just this once" or even worse get upset with them. What the heck do I know?

And WBF, I think you and my aunt may have been seperated at birth! She has severe asthma too. And that certaintly does make the situation much worse unfortunately. Glad everything worked out for you!

 

[Wannabefree]

Kala, let me clarify...I have taken a hit from an inhaler probably 30 times in my lifetime....about 29 of which were AFTER exposure to soy :/ I usually do not need it, but soy flares it every. single. time. They say folks with soy allergies AND asthma are very very sensitive to the stuff. Just my luck

 

[Britesea]

DS3, who is training at Job Corps, likes to get the occasional "care package" because he really doesn't like the institutional food (no allergies, it's just not tasty). This time, he was asking if my husband could make a loaf of his special artisan bread that he could share with his roommates. He mentioned that one of them has nut allergies and asked that we not put any nuts in it (we usually put a whole mess of seeds and nuts in the bread). I told him that even if we left the nuts out, there was still a chance of cross contamination because we do a lot of cooking with nuts and nuts butters etc, and I just didn't feel comfortable saying the bread would be ok for him to eat - so very sorry.

 

[Wannabefree]

DS3, who is training at Job Corps, likes to get the occasional "care package" because he really doesn't like the institutional food (no allergies, it's just not tasty). This time, he was asking if my husband could make a loaf of his special artisan bread that he could share with his roommates. He mentioned that one of them has nut allergies and asked that we not put any nuts in it (we usually put a whole mess of seeds and nuts in the bread). I told him that even if we left the nuts out, there was still a chance of cross contamination because we do a lot of cooking with nuts and nuts butters etc, and I just didn't feel comfortable saying the bread would be ok for him to eat - so very sorry.

Yeah that's tough. I do still cook with things that contain soy for both DH and DD, but the key is to clean everything really well afterwards. All pans, utensils, countertops, hands, etc. after cooking with the allergenic ingredient. Thorough cleaning renders it safe. DD has a whole different intolerance/allergy and DH and I eat things she can't as well. I have never had a cross contamination incident in my kitchen. I am very very careful with it. A whole lot of the times things get cross contaminated are when one utensil is used to stir multiple dishes while cooking which is my fear of eating in someone else's kitchen. But, you CAN safely manage to bake a bread with no contamination if you're careful. Usually I just cook whatever would effect one of us FIRST, then clean up everything, and proceed with cooking everything else. It's really not very difficult to keep from cross contamination, the majority of it, is simply being careful and paying attention to what you're doing.

 

[abifae]

I am at work, so I only read the first page... but my diet is complicated enough that I always bring my own food and people understand. And are likely grateful to not feel obligated to fix me something I can safely eat!

 

[Kala]

Kala, let me clarify...I have taken a hit from an inhaler probably 30 times in my lifetime....about 29 of which were AFTER exposure to soy :/ I usually do not need it, but soy flares it every. single. time. They say folks with soy allergies AND asthma are very very sensitive to the stuff. Just my luck

That does make sense though that the asthma, hers certaintly seemed to get worse (ie like you said with the allergy attacks she usually had to use her inhaler too).

Glad everything worked out for you. And sorry you have to deal with all of this.

 

[Wannabefree]

Kala, let me clarify...I have taken a hit from an inhaler probably 30 times in my lifetime....about 29 of which were AFTER exposure to soy :/ I usually do not need it, but soy flares it every. single. time. They say folks with soy allergies AND asthma are very very sensitive to the stuff. Just my luck

That does make sense though that the asthma, hers certaintly seemed to get worse (ie like you said with the allergy attacks she usually had to use her inhaler too).

Glad everything worked out for you. And sorry you have to deal with all of this.

When researching, I found out about the asthma/soy allergy being a deadly combo. It does make a LOT of sense, and really hit home with me, because both have gotten very pronounced in the last year, and actually as the soy reaction worsened into being recognizable as food allergy rather than some other ailment my asthma now has to be treated whereas it never did before. I am a newbie when it comes to all the soy allergy stuff, and actually have to credit THIS website with helping me to recognize that my symptoms were in fact allergy in the first place. Perhaps it saved my life even. The attacks sure made me feel as if I was dying. I did the elimination diet for possible food allergy just several months ago, and my symptoms have all but stopped completely. I just caught onto the reaction to the oil and lecithin a month or so ago via chocolate I make my own now though I am now completely symptom free though

I am actually GLAD I have to deal with all of this. It has been eyeopening, and life altering. I feel better than I have in YEARS and know "why" I always felt so horrible. Mystery ailments are NOT any fun at all. Wondering why you're tired, or suddenly terrified(allergy induced panic attacks) is definately NOT something I would wish on anyone. Maybe through my own experience, I can help someone else who has no idea what is going on with them, and they won't have to suffer with it as long as I did without help or answers. Even pigheaded folks who don't initially understand, can be educated and pass on the information to another sufferer. You never know who or how you'll affect others

I'm blessed

 

[Bimpnottin]

You never know who or how you'll affect others

I'm blessed

You have the greatest attitude! Have fun and enjoy your OWN food.

 

[MetalSmitten]

glad it's not an issue anymore this time, but, for the future - when you're explaining, try comparing it to the children with peanut allergies. that's gotten to be fairly well-known, and sometimes an analogy can really help put things in perspective for people who've never dealt with it.