Quail_Antwerp: Words from the Barnyard...

[Farmfresh]

I think you should hold a special family court, and find him guilty yourselves!
Certainly you have friends that can join in making this a formal occasion.
Then, have a big celebratory potluck after.

That is a REALLY good idea! To have an event where she sees her WHOLE family around her and supporting her. If you could do something like that while protecting her from any further stress, it could really help her in the long haul.

Focus the party on her strength, and her purity. She is blameless as a lamb, but sometimes the victim still feels like they must be lacking some how.

 

[Denim Deb]

I don't normally post this on a public forum, but my sister was molested by a stranger when she was little. I just barely remember it. (She's 2 years older than I.) This was b4 the days of counseling, etc and it has affected her her whole life. She never got the support that she needed as a child. I know that your DD WILL get the support that she needs, and that she will be able to overcome this. So sorry that there wasn't a different verdict.

 

[AL]

I think you should hold a special family court, and find him guilty yourselves!
Certainly you have friends that can join in making this a formal occasion.
Then, have a big celebratory potluck after.

"LIKE" *2 thumbs up*

 

[Dace]

 

[lorihadams]

I am in shock. I feel so sorry for your family....maybe someone will run him over while he's looking for that ride out of town.

I know your DD will be okay eventually....she knows that you all love and support her and BELIEVE her and that means a lot.

 

[dragonlaurel]

At least your daughter is safe with you and he will probably never have the courage to come close to you or her again. Just pray for that 4 year old, and remember that no one escapes Karma. It can be slow but it will happen.

Give her a hug for me for being strong enough to stand up and tell the truth about the sicko. She is a hero for it. It gave other kids and their parents the warning about him which still may prevent him from hurting some of them.

 

[AnnaRaven]

Honestly, for your daughter, it's more important you believed her and went through the process than his verdict. Very few people get convicted without um... physical evidence found immediately after in ER.

But that you stood by her and took it all the way through will make it easier on her in every way.

As someone who was molested (and no I don't tell just everyone that), I agree completely. You standing with her and making clear that she didn't deserve this is the important thing.

 

[modern_pioneer]

I was not aware of your troubles until this morning, I will be sure to add you and yours to my prayer list.

Well you know me and my belief in karma, he will get his or what is coming to him. Just wait, it will come around, trust me... Try to stay away from him, dirt bags like this don't make it to far now that this has been brought to light.

Your a tough gal, and I know you will work through this. My heart goes to your DD for sure, and I especially hope the help you are getting for her will help her work through this and live a normal life.

 

[Quail_Antwerp]

I appreciate everyone's kindness, prayers, and words of encouragement.

But, now we have to pick up the pieces and move on. It's hard, too, because I think about it for a minute and literally get sick.

One thing I will say, we're taking steps to propose a change the law. We don't believe someone who has preyed on a small child, and threatened that child with a death threat, should be allowed to dismiss the jury. He had all the rights in that courtroom, and his victim (our dd) had none. We're going to propose a law (as soon as we find the route to go) that will not allow someone who committed a sexually offensive crime against a minor to choose a bench trial. Worse case scenario, the law won't pass, but our hope is that we can get it passed.

Also, the authorities KNOW he has molested his own DD but what she was able to tell them, but because of how young she is she is NOT able to testify, so therefore TN was NOT able to build a case against him. That case - for now - has been closed.

Now to moving on - back to farming. Back to living.

Which, btw, feeding the critters is really getting expensive. I've made some steps to some tough decisions over this weekend - after looking at my feed bill for the month of January.

I just have to let some things go. We're looking at the ones that actually brought some income in last year and keeping those and selling off the rest.

Mick, my halflinger, will probably be going to a new home. We just can't afford to keep him, and we're not going to keep something we can't feasonably care for. It wouldn't be fair to him. Or to the other animals. So, that's where we're at.

My muscovy drake kicked it over night. Not sure what happened, but we found him this morning. Dash Jr. was lying next to him, with a perfectly mortified expression on her face. As we took his body from the barn to dispose of him, she followed us. She has spent the rest of the day moping about.

Not sure what we're going to do for a muscovy drake, but we're pretty sure of our decision to sell all the ducks except the mallards, muscovies, and the dark campbells.

I'm also considering selling off the Sebbie Geese, too.

E thinks I should sell my goats but that's only HIS opinion, and only because he hates them and feels they are worthless.

I think he should sell his stupid guineas. But that's MY opinion because I hate them and feel they are worthless.

And that's all that's happening here.

 

[CrimsonRose]