Wannabefree...guess what I got in the mail today!?!?!?!?

[FarmerJamie]

I thought you'd might grow tobacco

 

[Wannabefree]

Hmmmmmm....and WHY would I do such a thing?

 

[FarmerJamie]

don't know what I was thinking.

 

[Denim Deb]

What kind of cherry tree are you going to get?

 

[Wannabefree]

I was thinking of getting a Bing, but have been looking at a few others. One in particular is a small tree, but a heavy producer of sweet cherries, called Stella.

It's raining here :/ and cold :/ and I am being lazy in the house :/ This weather just drags me down Dreary muck needs to subside!!! Even the greenhouse isn't as nice as it was yesterday. I will be out there in a bit anyway though. I have to get some more pots ready for peppers and such SOON. DH is having spice withdrawal, so peppers will come first

R is going to get his DL changed over to TN, and deliver a pig to this little girl at church. That kid is SO excited about her "new baby girl piggy!" We are giving it to her free of charge. The kid loves animals, and it's just her and her dad. He's a single father, her mother is over in the U.K. and has little to nothing to do with her. She's 6 and the sweetest most outgoing kid! She always has me a hug and a big ole smile

That ^^^ made me realize something about myself the other day too....I absolutely LOVE kids, always have...I just really hate the day to day drama of parenting :/ That's not good I think. Kinda made me glad I can't have any and didn't get the foster kids. I'm not a "bad" parent, but I'm not as good as I could be if I had more patience I guess. Don't get me wrong, the DD's are a blessing, but I honestly can not wait till the younger is out of my house! She drives me nuts. I can tolerate other peoples children MUCH better than my own, and it doesn't bother me for long periods of time, days on end even. Give me mine for 24 hours and I'm ready to pull my hair out What gives? Does everyone feel that way, or is it just me? I wonder if it's maybe just the change of pace or personality or whatever. Is it that DD is too comfortable and thinks it her duty to complain constantly, and other kids don't share that mentality, or what? Everyone else thinks DD is a little angel. But, they don't live with her. She doesn't try to be happy or social here. She has even told me just the other day, the only place she is happy now is at school, that she hates being here, hates being around us, hates the farm, hates everything here. I have no idea where it even came from, we were eating lunch together at the table. Is it just a rotten teenager thing? I mean, who SAYS that to their parent just for the sake of saying it? And WHY? Even if you think it, why would you let it come out your mouth?! We used to get along great. Now, if we are in the same room for more than an hour, she has to say something spiteful, ungrateful, or mean, like her "hate speech" the other day, to try to pick a fight. I keep wondering what the crap I have done wrong, or if she's just an evil troll. Well, that's what's been rolling around in my head lately anyway. And I WILL be glad when she moves out, I'm tired, and old, and could use less crap in my life I even catch myself wishing she could move out now. Less than 3 more years to go....

 

[moolie]

I think it all goes along with the old adage that "you only hurt the ones you love". I think teenagers have so much going on in their heads and all around them, on top of all the growing pains and hormones, that sometimes they just don't know how to act. They've been "little kids" all their life, and now they are suddenly trying to become adults. They don't always understand the expectations, or have the right expectations of themselves, let alone realistic expectations of the world and people around them.

That said, I'm incredibly blessed that other than during the couple of PMS days that my oldest has, and the odd row that my two girls have where they try to out-yell each other in order to be right, my kids are pretty level and I have a great relationship with both of them. So I can't really relate to wanted to throttle a kid of mine, although other people's kids regularly make me wonder what the heck is wrong with them. So I guess I have the opposite problem.

 

[Wannabefree]

My eldest was a breeze as far as living with her from day to day for the most part. She had her moments, as we all do...but DD15...I wonder if the child is unstable. She is just horrible, and takes great pride in being nasty to me pretty much daily now. Then again, she's nasty to everyone except her dad anyway. She's nasty and snarky to R, and about R, and he took over some of her chores to give her a break!!! She says he stinks, and he stares at her(ego problem there?), and he's this and he's that...I guess she's putting the extra energy from lack of chores into being a jerk now Of course, her dad thinks she's an angel most of the time too, and hears the things she says and does nothing. Anyone who doesn't kiss her butt...she's hateful. Back at it today, and DH is just sitting back not saying a word. He is creating a monster, but ya can't tell him a thing. I give up.

moolie, sounds like you either lucked up, or just have a very mild mannered genetic line to begin with.

Well, the piggy got loose. I dunno if they'll ever catch her either. I told them to put food out and just wait for her to come back. She should associate the place with food by now, pigs are pretty smart when it comes to eating at least. Hopefully they'll get her back up. I dunno what to do there

 

[Wannabefree]

Totally forgot to mention DH got that job. Unfortunately it's only 7 months of the year, but it is still enough to pay our yearly bills if we manage correctly. Then, we have the money from the new business as well once that gets rolling in. We'll have to be careful, but I'm no stranger to that considering we have budgetted like that for YEARS being in construction and all that.

I took a look at our income taxes this morning, looks like a refund again this year. We have talked about it, and plan on using it to invest in the farm to the tune of a couple thousand. We have $450 going to land taxes, $750 to R's legal stuff, $400 to get the truck worked on, and a smidgen of a rainy day fund. So we figure we can spend about $1500-2000 on the farm/business. Any ideas?

 

[CheerioLounge]

Congrats to DH!! And on the nice refund!!


How about a bunkhouse for all your boarders!!

 

[Wannabefree]

Congrats to DH!! And on the nice refund!!


How about a bunkhouse for all your boarders!!

We have room We only have one guy here now, and that is ALL that's going to be here from here on out I hope!

Niecey would love for me to build them a bunkhouse, so she could come stay the night again