What do you know about ADD?

[me&thegals]

And you ask, "Why do you even try to make him do those chores when it takes that long?"

And I say, "Because I CAN!" Too easy to give up and just do it myself....maybe why God paired up an ADD child with a strong-willed mom, who knows?

Besides....completing a task is good for him. It happens so seldom....

No kidding, hey? And then every once in a while they will shock me with speedy, prompt and high-quality work done! I just about leap about the house for joy

And, to be fair to my son, he was sick today and so life was a little more difficult, of course.

 

[Farmfresh]

In a very uninformed way, it seems the sperm would be as likely to be affected as the eggs...

Actually yes. But since the sperm are being continually replaced the person would have to be smoking pot currently, so that particular BATCH of sperm were affected. If the theory is true.

All of the eggs you will ever have are present at a woman's birth. Therefore anything that damages the eggs at anytime could damage the eggs forever.

Like I said it is just a theory of mine.

 

[Beekissed]

Actually yes. But since the sperm are being continually replaced the person would have to be smoking pot currently, so that particular BATCH of sperm were affected. If the theory is true.

Yep....I could see this. And, yes, constant and current pot smoking was happening in my case....

 

[me&thegals]

What do you all know about Goosebumps movies? They showed one 1-2 weeks ago during a rainy recess. Since then, my son has not been able to sleep very well. We play soft music in his room at night to help calm his fears. He would not, would NOT go work alone in his room last night when it became obvious that he was not focusing in the public parts of our home. In fact, he was terrified to be alone in any part of the house--which is why homework took more than 3 hours last night.

I made my first school complaint this morning via e-mail. I was not impressed at all at this choice for a movie during a rainy day. Why not go play in the gym? Or read books? Especially in the context of a child who needs alone, quiet places to be able to focus.

 

[Beekissed]

I agree. Some of the movies they show at school, I wouldn't let my children watch in our own home. My middle son took fright to Return of the Mummy once and it was a pretty bad time there for awhile.

I'd just create a little, light-filled space right in the living room for his homework. This worked well for my young ADD. An overstuffed chair in which he could sprawl, tuck in with his school books and be in sight of me always seemed to work best.

Also, steady, designated homework hours in which the house is kept quiet....no TV, no radio, no phone ringing. This helped my middle child also, as he couldn't read at all if there was any noise of any kind...even quiet talking. Dyslexia/ADD is a bad mix.

I chose those times to snuggle down beside them and read a good book. I think their love for reading really started out of this practice....the family quiet time.

 

[me&thegals]

I think part of the problem is our home's open floor plan. The bedrooms and bathrooms are the only rooms with doors and walls. And, this entire week we have friends and family staying with us. But, after that I think your idea would work great, Bee. Especially now that the gardening is winding down (and the canning!), that would be a great time to snuggle in with a book and offer occasional guidance.

 

[TTs Chicks]

I haven't read every post but I thought I'd tell you my experience/opinion

We had my middle son tested for gifted a couple of years ago and he was a little short of that classification but he did end up being diagnosed with ADD

He can't sit still at school, he can't remember more than 1 or 2 instructions at a time, he does homework but doesn't turn it in, he has some social skills issues but he still has friends.

We did not consider meds of any kind and when his Dr was given copies of the report he did not want us to consider meds.

He has some allowances at school - extra time for classroom assignments/tests, he takes stardardized testing outside of the normal setting and has extra time.

We don't allow him to use it as an excuse. We try to remember his mind works different and figure out what works for him - it's not always easy but we try.

 

[me&thegals]

We don't allow him to use it as an excuse. We try to remember his mind works different and figure out what works for him - it's not always easy but we try.

I really agree with this! Using myself as an example, it is still rude for me to show up to a lunch date late, regardless of the fact that I like to do 17 things at once and get distracted along the way. No excuses.

Does anybody have any ideas out there for how to work with the school on the school-home gap? My son's teacher has given each child a special notebook with the subjects listed out. The children enter their own assignments in each day. There's a place to check off each assignment done, then for us to sign and receive/leave comments.

Other than asking the teacher to personally oversee my son packing the necessary work in his backpack to bring home, have you found ways of making sure ALL necessary work/books get home?

 

[Beekissed]

Nope. Other than being there at the end of the day and picking your son up personally and checking with the teacher, in detail, all the assignments and books needed.....I've not found a way to do this.

 

[Blackbird]

When I still went to public school, I had a Physiology class. The teacher would put the entire week's assignments up on the school website for students to check from home. It also worked for if students were home sick.

If your kids stay on track with school that could be an option, or ask his teachers for a list of what they will be doing each week..?