I was thinking about this over the holidays and thought I would post.
My father is a really nasty guy sometimes. He can be pretty rude. For him, a compliment would be (actual example): You don't look as broad in the beam as you used to. or You don't look like a swollen, bloated tomato any more.
As I have mentioned elsewhere, I used to weigh 380 pounds. Had weight loss surgery and lost 200 pounds. Surgery failed and I regained 100, and have now lost about half of that since going SS and working on the pain issues. So, I am almost "normal" now. Whatever that is.
There are people in this world who feel they have the right to say anything they want to you when you are fat. They consider you to be weak and to have all manner of character flaws.
Some years ago, my home became a refuge for troubled kids that my daughter met at school. Over two years, we had 11 of them living with us, and I held monthly dinners for up to 50. It was just a wonderful time.
Before one of those dinners, I was shopping at Costco for the meal and a woman employee came up to my cart and told me that the food I was buying was excessive and not healthy. She then proceeded to remove items from the cart that did not meet her standards and advised me of healthier choices. I was dumbstruck. Went straight to the manager and she was fired on the spot.
Another time, I entered a doctor's waiting room to see a small child playing happily on the floor. She looked up at me and started screaming "Mommy, mommy, don't let the fat lady get me." Her mom scooped her up, turned her little head away from me and said, "Don't worry honey, she won't eat you, Mommy will protect you." Talk about ignorance. Anyway, the receptionist called their name right away and the woman kept the child's face buried in her shoulder the whole time she left the room.
So, do you have any stories of people who have been incredibly inappropriate to you? Most of us have known dolts! If so, how did you deal with the rudeness? I am pretty proactive, as you can tell ! I have also carried myself with a lot of confidence, even at 380, so people have to have a LOT of chutzpah to say a word. And some do !
My father is a really nasty guy sometimes. He can be pretty rude. For him, a compliment would be (actual example): You don't look as broad in the beam as you used to. or You don't look like a swollen, bloated tomato any more.
As I have mentioned elsewhere, I used to weigh 380 pounds. Had weight loss surgery and lost 200 pounds. Surgery failed and I regained 100, and have now lost about half of that since going SS and working on the pain issues. So, I am almost "normal" now. Whatever that is.
There are people in this world who feel they have the right to say anything they want to you when you are fat. They consider you to be weak and to have all manner of character flaws.
Some years ago, my home became a refuge for troubled kids that my daughter met at school. Over two years, we had 11 of them living with us, and I held monthly dinners for up to 50. It was just a wonderful time.
Before one of those dinners, I was shopping at Costco for the meal and a woman employee came up to my cart and told me that the food I was buying was excessive and not healthy. She then proceeded to remove items from the cart that did not meet her standards and advised me of healthier choices. I was dumbstruck. Went straight to the manager and she was fired on the spot.
Another time, I entered a doctor's waiting room to see a small child playing happily on the floor. She looked up at me and started screaming "Mommy, mommy, don't let the fat lady get me." Her mom scooped her up, turned her little head away from me and said, "Don't worry honey, she won't eat you, Mommy will protect you." Talk about ignorance. Anyway, the receptionist called their name right away and the woman kept the child's face buried in her shoulder the whole time she left the room.
So, do you have any stories of people who have been incredibly inappropriate to you? Most of us have known dolts! If so, how did you deal with the rudeness? I am pretty proactive, as you can tell ! I have also carried myself with a lot of confidence, even at 380, so people have to have a LOT of chutzpah to say a word. And some do !
