What is the rudest thing anyone has ever said to you?

[Ldychef2k]

Agreed, Wifezilla. When I lost 200 pounds, all of a sudden people I had known for years were asking me to go places with them. I didn't do it, because the person I was had not changed. They were just not embarrassed any more...and that's a character flaw on their part.

OkieGirl...I hear you! What I have some to realize, after a lot of soul searching, is that I have to respect a person before I allow their opinion to matter to me. It helped my "issues" once I realized that a stranger or a peripheral acquaintance didn't fit that requirement !

 

[delia_peterson]

Well this is an indirect rudeness, but my MIL tales pride in the fact that she has never *looked * at my chickens. She has seen them out the window but has never intentionally walked out to see them....and she is proud of that fact

Wow, who can resist chickens?

 

[okiegirl1]

Agreed, Wifezilla. When I lost 200 pounds, all of a sudden people I had known for years were asking me to go places with them. I didn't do it, because the person I was had not changed. They were just not embarrassed any more...and that's a character flaw on their part.

OkieGirl...I hear you! What I have some to realize, after a lot of soul searching, is that I have to respect a person before I allow their opinion to matter to me. It helped my "issues" once I realized that a stranger or a peripheral acquaintance didn't fit that requirement !

.....um....... my mother says that to me

 

[SKR8PN]

I have battled my weight my entire life, but I can honestly say that no one has ever been so rude as to make permanent impression on me..........but then, one of my favorites sayings is "I don't pay any attention to sh!t unless I'm steppin' in it."

Just for the record.....I am now 5'5" short and weigh around 190, give or take a few, but my measured body mass index is around 20% I gained 10 lbs the last 4 months because I have been rather lazy about my workout schedule and my diet.
I plan of getting BOTH back in line in the new year.

 

[hwillm1977]

I rescue pit bulls... I LOVE the breed, and think they have a much worse reputation than they deserve thanks to media and moronic owners.

I've had LOTS of people be rude when I'm walking my dogs, ranging from actually kicking my dog and telling me it tried to bite him (when the dog was in a heel beside me, minding his own business), to telling me that 'monsters like that should all be shot' or 'evil dogs like that are a waste of space and don't deserve to live' or snide remarks to people they are with about 'why they let dogs like that in here' when we're at agility competitions, or even in the pet store. When we have fostered ex-fighting dogs it's a lot worse because they usually carry scars and aren't always in the best shape when they arrive.

I tend to ignore rude comments about me, I get more offended when someone insults one of my pets.... mostly because I work very hard to have well trained, well socialized, well behaved dogs.

I do get 'Are those your real boobs?' too delia, even from complete strangers... I can't believe people say things like that... or because I'm short (5 feet nothing) I get 'do you ever wish you grew taller?' and someone asked me what grade I'm in... I'm 32 years old...

 

[hikerchick]

Oh- I have another one.

My ex husband is quite a bit younger than I am. We had a child together. Perfect strangers used to think it was ok to ask me if my husband was the father of my child?

I wanted to ask, "why, does she resemble the UPS guy?"

 

[Ldychef2k]

OkieGirl: Listen to your mother !

MY mother says things like: You should always wear your hair like that. It doesn't make your face look as fat. (It was greasy, slicked back and in a knot in the back. Very chic.) Dad is much worse.

I am almost 60 and they still say things like that, even though I have dealt with them in the healthiest of ways, and have pointed out a thousand times how it is NOT a compliment. Their behaviors are so ingrained that I have to just let it bounce off. They are never going to change. The only thing I can do is not let it bother me.

 

[me&thegals]

I have had people ask probing questions about the adoption that are none of their business, then get offended when I refuse to answer. These people range from not so close family members, to acquaintences to complete strangers (who are told that DS was adopted by someone other than me!)

Wow! As the auntie of 2 beautiful adopted children, I am amazed at how clueless most people are to the etiquette of adoption. I was so very glad that my sister pointed both families to books that would help us understand so much more than we used to so we could avoid most of the hurtful things that people unwittingly say. I think people feel so entitled to all information (reality TV?) and are shocked to think that adoption stories belong to the immediate family and not the world.

 

[me&thegals]

I wonder if sometimes the lack of social skills might be the result of indoctrination.

Take fat, for example. One of the most hated elements in our society is fat. We eliminate it, cut it, bust it, slash it, and in all ways demonize it. On TV and in print media, on the internet, and especially at the fisrt of the year, we are admonished to be free of fat, we resolve to get rid of fat in our lives so we can finally be happy.

The societal norm is to avoid fat at all costs. This indoctrination has created a mind set of hatred, and I dont' think I am over stating it.

The perception that fat is evil is easily transferred from the slab of butter on the pancakes to the woman at the mall. From decades of life experience, I can tell you that the attitudes toward fat as a dietary element and fat in a person's body are identical. Fat is disgusting, so a fat person is disgusting as well. Because we are flooded with negative input on dietary fat, it breaks down the restraint we might otherwise in approaching a fat person. Because society constantly hears profound messages of hatred toward dietary fat, people feel completely at ease attacking the fat PERSON.

I think you are spot on. It's very sad.

 

[me&thegals]

I always heard passive aggressive things.

"did you mean to do that to your hair? I mean, it's cute on you, but I would never do that"

"oh, you have such a pretty FACE"

that kind of crap.

no wonder I have such self esteme issues.

You DO have a beautiful face!