Why do you love being married.

[xpc]

Trends run in families because they get their example of how to behave from each other. But if you live differently, you can find a mate that you'll be happy with.
Think about how alot of those people behave. You wouldn't want to spend your life like that. Your standards are different, so you actually have a good chance of ending up happy. And not behind bars.

Hey who said anything about bars? I was thinking more about taverns, dragonlaurel this not about you and just a beers rant on the subject.

Both my grandfather and father were were very violent in child up bringing and discipline by today's standards, not so much then in the 50s and 60s. But not a single one of his children ever did the same to their own children, I have never hit any of my boys and further yet never hit my dogs. The pseudo psychology of that thought can only play out so far or mankind wouldn't be here. Sorry for my diatribe but if what you say is true then why did all us kids get married 3 times when my folks are still happily married after 60 years and so were their parents.

Now Blackbird speaks of his aunts and uncles and if he is as intelligent as everyone purports will see that those people are just not right and strive even harder to not be like them, he will learn from past mistakes like all others before us by examples or his own misgivings. The warts of society will die out if we all shun them equally but giving children psychotropic drugs and releasing sexually disturbed people back into the wild will only exasperate the problem.

 

[xpc]

Only one of the kids isn't married. All that are married are still with spouse #1. Even his parents got back together eventually.

I'll bet that was the one who ate all that sugary popcorn too. It has been shown that 10 out of 10 prison convicts ate Twinkies at one time (said tongue in cheek)...

 

[dragonlaurel]

XPC- I was talking about his situation not yours. I didn't say anything about fried chicken.
Blackbird is a good friend and I know he is going to be a good mate for somebody down the line.
I know people can break the patterns of abuse.

 

[xpc]

XPC- I was talking about his situation not yours. I didn't say anything about fried chicken.
Blackbird is a good friend and I know he is going to be a good mate for somebody down the line.
I know people can break the patterns of abuse.

Yes I realized that halfway through my post but had too much momentum to stop and just changed directions - no harm no foul.

 

[dragonlaurel]

Hard to stop when you're all steamed up. Oh wait. That's why so many people get into bad marriages.

 

[Blackbird]

if he is as intelligent as everyone purports

They purport that a lot don't they?

After a while it gets annoying. 'So young' etc. Yes, I am younger than some, but I don't need to hear how intelligent I am. I have failed many math classes - not that they really ever mattered to me.

It seems I often post something, it gets made into a big deal. I don't need pity; but does sharing my feelings or emotions require pity from others? Enough pity or care that it high jacks a thread? I don't like that, it makes me feel like a suck up. I hate that. I need to stop posting. I mean no harm, but just give me a damn hug and move on people. If I really wanted, I post a whole thread about horrid things and get pity for years, but I try not to be negative.

I do wonder; if circumstances were different, that I would still be as intelligent as I am told I am? I like to think so, but I can't be sure.

But, I do believe Laura has faced quite a bit of what you've said XPC, you're preachin to the choir

 

[xpc]

Hard to stop when you're all steamed up. Oh wait. That's why so many people get into bad marriages.

Ha! I think a bullhead is not a fish but my middle name. Touche.

 

[dragonlaurel]

if he is as intelligent as everyone purports

They purport that a lot don't they?

After a while it gets annoying. 'So young' etc. Yes, I am younger than some, but I don't need to hear how intelligent I am. I have failed many math classes - not that they really ever mattered to me.

It seems I often post something, it gets made into a big deal. I don't need pity; but does sharing my feelings or emotions require pity from others? Enough pity or care that it high jacks a thread? I don't like that, it makes me feel like a suck up. I hate that. I need to stop posting. I mean no harm, but just give me a damn hug and move on people. If I really wanted, I post a whole thread about horrid things and get pity for years, but I try not to be negative.

I do wonder; if circumstances were different, that I would still be as intelligent as I am told I am? I like to think so, but I can't be sure.

But, I do believe Laura has faced quite a bit of what you've said XPC, you're preachin to the choir

Oops - Didn't mean to make you feel uncomfortable.

 

[Blackbird]

Sent you a PM Laura. No worries.

 

[dragonlaurel]

Hard to stop when you're all steamed up. Oh wait. That's why so many people get into bad marriages.

Ha! I think a bullhead is not a fish but my middle name. Touche.

I wasn't talking about bullheadedness. I was trying to be subtle since this is a family friendly forum.
Too many people let young, overeager, hormones pick out a mate for them. Then grow up a little and realize that mate and them are not compatible.