Bee~ Journal of then...

[dragonlaurel]

Yes, angels Bee!

Well.. unless you include all the child abuse and voilence on both sides, and the drunkards on my mom's, and the uncle that was killed by the police because he was set up in a drug ring, the cousin who's always in jail for rape and theft, the other cousins who run drugs, the cousin who held a gun to everyones face while we were at their Christmas party, and the mentally unstable...

Yup, I sure am an angel

Well, somebody's got to give them an example of what sanity is.

 

[Farmfresh]

I got em too! Fortunately the big "cancer epidemic" of the 80's took out a couple of the hardest to bear. My mom and grandpa. Sounds horrible, but what a relief. :/

 

[FarmerDenise]

Yup, I join the club.
Had an aunt who wouldn't let me see my dying grandmother. Actually she wouldn't let any of grandma's friends come see her either. When my grandmother died my sister and I were told that our children could not come to the memorial service. But my brother's step children, who did not know my grandmother were invited.
The family had our own memorial, and most did not attend the one my aunt so carefully arranged and paid for with my grandmother's money. Dear auntie also helped herself to all of grandmother's money and investments. got her name put on them. And then claimed all grandma's money was gone, that she never had much to begin with. Which was a lie, because grandma told me what she had quite a few years prior. Auntie also would not let us go into grandma's home to gather things she had promised us, or even to clean it. My mother finally said bulls....! and went and broke into grandma's trailer and went through the stuff and took what her mother had promised her. What was left of it anyway.

After my grandmother died, my aunt kept sending me really mean letters of how terrible I was to my grandmother and what a terrible person I was. These things were all in her head. My mother and other family members were present at some of these events, that she accused me of being mean to my grandmother. After the first 2 letters, I refused them. She started mailing them to me via registered mail. I still refused them.
I gave up fighting for the inheritance a month after my grandmother's death. I didn't need the agravation. I decided to let go and let god. Auntie's cancer came back. She died with just her husband by her side. No one from the family would have anything to do with her.
A dear friend called her "Lucy in the sky with diamonds". Auntie's name was Lucy.
My uncle, (aunt Lucy and mom's brother) got hold of aunt Lucie's husband after her death and got him to give up what remained of our inheritance. My mother got it. And that is just fine with us.

I also have a distant cousin, that no-one claims. I met him a few times. He was very grabby with us girls, if you catch my drift. He got himself a mail order bride from Poland, a 19 year old. He was 40. He is in New York City somewhere. The rest of my family is in Europe, so we don't have to deal with them anymore. We only stay in touch with the nice ones.

See what you brought up Bee?

 

[Beekissed]

It's good to know that others have the same problem and it's just not my dumb family that can't act right. Isn't there enough trouble just living life without all this tension and hatred?

Keep it comin'! Let us know what freaks you all have for family...could be we are all related!

I think it started with Eve...taking a bite of that fruit and blaming it on the serpent, then trying to implicate Adam in the crime, who was a dumb follower. Typical dysfunctional family....

I believe this is just the evidence of rampant sin in our world. All this needless pain and strife over something as stupid as life fruit/apples when there is a whole garden of fruit all around us.

No offense, Aly....my family puts the "fun" in dysfunctional!

 

[Quail_Antwerp]

No offense, Aly....my family puts the "fun" in dysfunctional!

Why would I be offended? Mine put the "dys" in




Edited out my diarrhea of the mouth.

 

[justusnak]

Wow, I have fallen so far behind on everyones journals...Bee, and everyone...sadly you can add me to that list of haveing crazy, messed up relatives.
When my best friend and I talked once about my childhood, she literally cried...( hers was for the most part, perfect) while mine was...well..like most of yours. :/ Mom and dad divorced...It was ugly, so the judge put us 5 kids in an oprphanage(yes they had them back then still) My aunt got us out after about 6 months. Dad took us, from my aunt, and ran to Indiana from Ohio. Took Mom a year to find us, then she "kidnapped" us from him, and we ran from the police for years. Always moveing, hideing...it was a bummer for sure. Then when she married my dad, the truckdriver, things settled down a bit. However, when my mother lay dieing last year, in a bed...I called my brother and sisters....everyone of them said..." Are you sure its time, I dont really have the time to run out there if its not "time" " Messed up! For sure!
Mother has been gone a year....I miss her so terribly, they never even mention her, unless they are asking if I have een able to get anything from her husband, for them. UGH! NO I WONT!
This old world is crazy....thats why Hubby and i are staying in our own little corner...keeping it as sane as possible!
Bee, I pray all goes well for you.

 

[Beekissed]

Heck....my family sounds like the Cleaver family compared to all of yours! Very sorry to have complained and it does NOT make me feel any better that others have problems with their family. I thought it would but it just makes me sadder......

I just have family that all drank the Hatorade. Thankfully, we have nothing to inherit, as my folks have always been poor and Dad never gave Mom even one little gift in 57 years, not even jewelry.

No wonder we all come on this forum looking for companionship and like thinking....we don't have much of that in our own families!

My heart goes out to all of you....and justusnak..there are no words, really. I wish I could have mothered you kids and given you a good, stable home.

I guess this is why I get a little peeved when folks get all mushy on stray animals and talk about finding them a "good home" or giving them a good home. Just think about all the forgotten kids out there who would give anything to have a "good home".

Doesn't anybody care about the kids? Or are puppies just so much more appealing?

 

[Beekissed]

Side note and completely irrelevant...but....

Ever go on BYC and BYH and wonder why everyone's animals are so sick? Is it because no one posts when their animals are well and happy? Should we start a post where folks can tell GOOD stories about keeping livestock?

Sort of a "if yer happy and ya know it, clap yer hands" type of thread so that newbies won't get the nervous shakes when they think of getting these types of animals?

 

[Quail_Antwerp]

I dunno, Bee. I for one would never tell them if any of my birds were sick simply because they automatically assume anything wrong with a chicken is highly contagious and they black ball you from selling eggs.

Not gonna even go to them for advice if the end results would hurt my business.

Are you going to start that thread?

 

[Blackbird]

to everyone.

Aly, sounds like you need to break off contact!! Wouldn't be surprised if your mother gave the ring to her other daughter herself.

I guess if she wants to keep ever little thing, thats her problem.
But I think quite a few people hide money in their tampon boxes, don't they..?



When my great granny died one of her daughters and her entire family went over and looked through everything the day after it happened, and took most of it for themselves. What they didn't take they sold to various thrift stores so no one else could have anything. Its just horrible what people will do for greed. These people are practically just lying in wait for them to drop dead.

Your right Bee, seems most of us have had past 'issues'. What a colorful bunch..