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MorelCabin

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Praying that the Lord's will be done in the issue with your mom and dad...praying that your family comes to agreement with it all. And praying for you Bee, that the Lord keeps you with a joyful heart, and a peaceful spirit despite what is going on around you.
Love ya lots girl!
 

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Thank you, Morel! Mom was restored~just barely~to guardianship of my father but, as I predicted would happen, the one daughter did not relinquish her conservatorship. Neither one showed up in the courtroom and the judge STILL wanted them to have both jobs anyway. If Dad's state appointed attorney hadn't argued points of law, Mom wouldn't even have won guardianship back.

This judge clearly has issues, as he has ignored psych evaluations, doctor's recommendations, six other siblings and my dad's brother objecting to his decision and giving testimony about the character of and the dereliction of duties of these individuals. We even gave testimony that they admitted to stealing all of mother's possessions and it was ignored.

We will be filing the police report about that as the next step and proceeding from there.

As for me? Hon, people like this do not upset my joyful spirit! :)

My mother and the rest of my siblings are not used to being or feeling defeated....never had anything go wrong in their lives, always had good incomes, never had to raise their children without a second income or a really great first income, etc. They've had some pretty peachy lives...so this is hard for them to get past. They are angry, they are hurt, they are seriously outraged at the miscarriage of justice.

I've spent a lifetime of losing...one thing after another, relationships, money, cars, etc. I've spent so much time on the ground that I was forced to do a lot of looking up. Getting royally screwed over has been my career...it's old hat to me. I barely even feel it anymore! ;)

When He that is within me is greater than he that is in the world, everything else matters little. I finally got knocked down so many times that I realized I was in the perfect position to pray and so I did. I continue to do so. Nothing anyone on this Earth can do to me can take this relationship away. I've got God and He has me and this is my safety and my refuge. I am loved! :love

A joyful spirit is something I have in abundance! :weee
 

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Beekissed said:
I finally got knocked down so many times that I realized I was in the perfect position to pray and so I did. I continue to do so. Nothing anyone on this Earth can do to me can take this relationship away. I've got God and He has me and this is my safety and my refuge. I am loved! :love

A joyful spirit is something I have in abundance! :weee
What words of faith Bee!
We all need to be able to learn from the wisdom God has knocked into you. (And I mean that in the most deeply loving way! :)) So many of us get knocked about in life and yet so few of us ever learn that simple lesson - to simply start praying.
 

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Farm, I'm trying to help my Mom see it in that light but she hasn't been knocked down enough to learn it yet. I think that everyone has to learn that for themselves really....I know I did.

Next I need to pray for humbleness and wisdom in dealing with my mother. She hasn't traversed along her path of spiritualism as far as I and I get a little impatient inside waiting for her to SEE....just SEEEEEEEE!!!!!! Heck, it only took me 40 years to open my eyes! :rolleyes: :p :lol:

What an idiot I felt when I finally just opened my eyes....I kept wondering how God ever put up with my blundering ignorance for all that time. :p

If it took me 40 years, I should really never, ever grow impatient with anyone's blindness....EVER! :rolleyes: But I do.....thus the need for prayer for God to help me be humble, help me understand, help me not try to foist my joyful spirit onto someone who is grieving her former life.

Poor woman crumples like a wilted flower when these blows hit and I had always pictured my mom as tough as leather....so hard to watch her fall down. So very hard to not try to reach out, yank her up, dust her off and tell her, "It's just a scratch, you're alright."

The first few times one falls is always the hardest~so I need to learn to be humble and understanding. To realize that, just because my legs are scarred and calloused, Mom's are still tender and bruised.

I'll see it soon....just need to keep praying, you know? :)
 

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God has given her a strong girl to wrap her up in loving arms and lift her when she falls. :hugs It is a funny feeling when we are the strong ones trying to guide and protect our parents. It will eventually happen to us as well. I just hope my kids can handle me! :p
 

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Bee, you are an amazing person. For the road you traveled must have been terrifying. But if it made you this strong, we should all have been so lucky.


Did that sound right? Anyways happy "almost" spring!!!

gina
 

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When He that is within me is greater than he that is in the world, everything else matters little. I finally got knocked down so many times that I realized I was in the perfect position to pray and so I did. I continue to do so. Nothing anyone on this Earth can do to me can take this relationship away. I've got God and He has me and this is my safety and my refuge. I am loved! love

A joyful spirit is something I have in abundance! wee
Bee, I know exactly what you mean!!! I have had a similar experience. It is so uplifting, when you finally "get it"!!!
My religion is different, but the spirituality is the same. It is all about having faith and believing that the Greater One(s) above really have our best interest at heart, even if we don't always understand it at that moment.

:love :weee :)

When your mom is ready, you will be there to guide her to her higher and stronger spiritual faith. Until then, you can be there for her to lean on and provide a shoulder to cry on and to just be there.

She will benefit from your spiritual strength and hopefully find her own soon.
 

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spring!!! I just love spring!!!! YEAH


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Bee-

I have dealt a lot with conservatorship & guardianship. It has been my experience that the judge has the ward's best interest at heart. He also wants the ward's hard earned money to be used for the ward's care. Also, the conservator must file with the court accountings of how the money has been spent along with receipts. Perhaps he felt that at your mother's age, she would not be efficient in doing this. It sounds as if someone is just out to get your father's money and doesn't really care what happens to him. Perhaps if you have so many issue with your sister still having conservatorship, then you should request that a non-interest party be awarded conservatorship. It sounds like someone should be praying for your father and his health and well-being. I don't feel that it is a very christian thing to be calling your family names. It doesn't give a very good impression of you.
 
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