Denim Deb Hay, hay, hay. Thank the Lord!

[framing fowl]

"Keep your keys to yourself..."

Maybe the first line to a country song chorus starting there...

 

[Denim Deb]

Well, all the good that hubby did he just undid.

We've been having a problem w/fleas. It seems like nothing I've done has had any effect. Yesterday, I planned on giving both cats a flea bath. I found Rerun w/no problem, but couldn't find Dust Bunny. First thing I did was check w/my daughter. Sometimes (but rarely) she'd get Dust Bunny and take her in her room. She didn't have her. I go back down in the basement, calling her, no response. Now I'm panicking. She had a favorite spot that she liked to get, which was very hard for me to get to, but that's where I looked. And there I found Dust Bunny. She had a heart murmur. It got her. I buried her in the back yard.

Then I got Rerun, and gave her her bath. That's when I realized how bad the fleas really were. I washed her (in Dawn). I still saw fleas crawling on her. I washed her again, then dried her. As I'm drying her, I still see fleas. Once she was dry, as much as I hated to do it, I put flea powder on her. Then I started working on the basement. Every little bit, I'd comb her and I was getting fleas off of her. So, I combed her out the best I could, and took her to the farm, she's now in my tack shed, and I'm going to be bombing the house.

But now that she's no longer in the house, my hubby does not want me to bring her home. He wants no animals in HIS house. He says he never wanted animals in the house. But, when he met me, I had a dog that went w/me everyplace I could take her. He brought me home a kitten. Never once did he EVER say that he didn't want animals in the house. I would NEVER have married him if he had.

I will not bring her home. I also won't redo the goat pen, or the chicken pen at home. All of my animals will be at the farm. And while I'm not planning at this point in time to move out, he's lost me, plain and simple. I've put up w/his drinking. I've put up w/his drunken rages. I've put up w/his spending. But, I cannot take this. He is not willing to compromise on this issue, and this goes to the core of my being. I'm an animal person. Once I quit work, I'll be home by myself for large portions of the day. It was one thing when the children were small, we still had the dogs even though they were outside. Well, the children aren't small now. And, as much as I want another dog, I will not get one and subject it to life by itself in a kennel. Animals are supposed to be companions, and for me, they're better companions than most people. So, instead of spending that time at home, I'll be spending it at the farm. Otherwise, I'll go crazy.

 

[pinkfox]

*huge hugs*

this guy obviously doesnt deserve you...and fron the sounds of it you know it too!

*more hugs*
and im sorry about dust bunny

 

[Wannabefree]

Sorry Deb. Sorry about Dust Bunny, and sorry about your DH. SOooooo frustrating to READ your journal sometimes...I can only imagine living it at the other end.

 

[Denim Deb]

Sorry Deb. Sorry about Dust Bunny, and sorry about your DH. SOooooo frustrating to READ your journal sometimes...I can only imagine living it at the other end.

I'm tired of it all, plain and simple. I've had many people over the years, ministers including that have told me I should leave him. But, I hate divorce and know that God does too. But, I just can't take him anymore. He's drunk right now, and has been annoying the heck out of me. He wants everything HIS way. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, and differences are supposed to be worked out in a way that agreeable to both. Not here. It's a dictatorship, plain and simple.

 

[savingdogs]

The no-animals issue would pretty much "do it" for me, too, if I were on the verge of leaving. It isn't fair to make a change like that without discussion and compromise.

Get some Frontline Plus for your kitty, that is the best thing for fleas. You have to get it from the vet but will help more than anything else I've found. You will need to bomb the environment too since you have an infestation but if you keep using it, it helps keep them away.

 

[Denim Deb]

I used Frontline last year, and thought we had them licked. I was wrong. But, I will be putting it on both Cindy and Rerun. They now need to learn to get along together again. Guess they forget they're mother and daughter. :/

The thing is, I don't want to have to keep Rerun in my tack shed. I don't feel it's fair to her. She's been a house cat since she was just a few months old. She's not used to the horses, chickens, etc and I know that after just a short period of time, she's going to want out. I'm also afraid of her wandering all the way up to the road and getting hit. Cindy was a stray when I found her. But, I also don't want to get rid of them. That would kill me. I so wish I could afford to just move out on my own and have all my animals w/me. If I'm able to make a success w/my writing, I just may do it. Or, if it gets too bad here, I won't have a choice.

 

[Wannabefree]

Sorry Deb. Sorry about Dust Bunny, and sorry about your DH. SOooooo frustrating to READ your journal sometimes...I can only imagine living it at the other end.

I'm tired of it all, plain and simple. I've had many people over the years, ministers including that have told me I should leave him. But, I hate divorce and know that God does too. But, I just can't take him anymore. He's drunk right now, and has been annoying the heck out of me. He wants everything HIS way. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, and differences are supposed to be worked out in a way that agreeable to both. Not here. It's a dictatorship, plain and simple.

Believe me I know what it's like to live with someone like that. I did for over 18 years. Get out. Who says you have to divorce? Just leave. God doesn't care if you don't live under the same roof as the husband. If you don't like/want divorce, then don't, just seperate indefinately. If he forces a divorce, then that is on him, and has set you free of any wrong in God's eyes. It still stinks to be in the situation, but.....you didn't ask for the abuse.

 

[Farmfresh]

The no-animals issue would pretty much "do it" for me, too, if I were on the verge of leaving. It isn't fair to make a change like that without discussion and compromise.

Get some Frontline Plus for your kitty, that is the best thing for fleas. You have to get it from the vet but will help more than anything else I've found. You will need to bomb the environment too since you have an infestation but if you keep using it, it helps keep them away.

After you flea bomb spread salt all over the house and work it down into the carpet. Let it stay as long as you can stand it. Vacuum and then salt again.

The salt will break the life cycle chain since the fleas hatch as tiny soft bodied maggots. When they hit the salt it is instant "slug death".

 

[gettinaclue]