I am afraid I would not have been able to resist temptation and blurted out that I was burial dress shopping. If nothing else, just to see if the sales person could recover and pitch me again. But then, I do have a squirrely sense of humor and funerals kinda bring out the dark side.....think twice before asking me to go pick out caskets......BWA-HA-HA-HA
I am sure this is a basket of mixed emotions. You don't know whether to be happy or sad. Celebrate her life in Christ or mulligrub because she will be gone. It is a very finality when your parent is gone. When you look around, they are not there anymore, and suddenly YOU are the OLD generation. Sobering thought.
Big hugs. You have a lot going on, but strength in the Lord will bring you through.
Thanks ya'll. I was at the facility all morning and they couldn't be nicer. Hospice came and pronounced - then they had to call the local police department too. Dad is ok, but emotionally exhausted. He's been a little weepy a couple times but recovers well. His hospice tech came in and bathed him and he literally zonked out after that. Time will tell how he will do... I think it will depend on his mental status from one minute to the next. Meeting with the funeral home at 10am tomorrow. I have a few things to get together before then. Really glad I had got mom's clothing situation squared away yesterday. Never even thought about dad. Sister in law picked up some things for him this morning.
I've got some really special neighbor ladies (the lady that used to take care of mom and dad) that decided to come clean my house. How awesome is that? Wish I hadn't cleaned so much on Monday! It gives me some time to get outside and do some yard work. Need to give the critters some nice cool water and hop on the mower.
Lots to do still. Need to gather up some legal papers before tomorrow.
Saddened by the loss, know the feeling of relief that it was quiet and peaceful, passing on to no pain or confusion. It is a time for you to remember her long life, forgive her quirks and unkind moments. Most of all, know that you did everything needed and feel no quilt or second guessing yourself. Be at Peace. Your life will go on, enjoy it.
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Take time to rest your own spirit now. Hug a goat, hug a dog, hug a DH.
So very kind of your neighbors to offer you a little bit of pleasure at this stressful time. A cleaned house is always a pleasure!! (Especially if we didn't have to do the cleaning).