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frustratedearthmother
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@baymule - thanks! We've been working on the eulogy today. My DH is going to give it (cuz he's a talker). It's tough project - but it's good too. Ya get a chance to remember the positive stuff from earlier in her life - not the bad stuff at the end.
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FEM I'm sorry for your loss. I wish there was something I could say or do but I know from experience nothing helps. If you need anything or just wanna shoot the breeze feel free to pm me.
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Thanks so much CR - I appreciate it. We're doing ok. Dad is having a hard time - but who wouldn't in his shoes. Sixty-eight years together!
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Wow that's a long time. Your poor dad. When is the service? Glad you have a talker to do that for you!
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Service was this morning. Poor dad, I had a transport service come and get him because it was just so much simpler than trying to transfer him out of his chair, into a vehicle, back into his wheelchair, and then back into a vehicle again.....just wouldn't work. This was so much easier and well worth the cost. We got to the Mausoleum and dad kept asking whose funeral we were at? Poor guy - so I put a program in his hand with her pic on front of it. That was tough. But he got through it. At the end he wanted the casket opened so he could see her. That's why I wanted it open to begin with - even though it's "traditional" at graveside services for it to be closed. (Even though we were inside a mausoleum not "technically" at graveside.... sigh.) So, they opened it and he just cried and cried. As sad as that was it was what he needed to actually finally register it.
DH did a great job on the eulogy. There was laughing and crying - just the way it should be I think.
I'm tired and glad that it's over for now.
DH did a great job on the eulogy. There was laughing and crying - just the way it should be I think.
I'm tired and glad that it's over for now.
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Ah that is so so sad for him.
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[QUOTE="frustratedearthmother, post: 425145, member: 4605" As sad as that was it was what he needed to actually finally register it.[/QUOTE]
Yes, it was what he needed. I pray that he will, somehow, get it stored so that he can know it is now over and be able to accept that. Sadly, it will need repeating by you, each time you see him.
It will be tough for a while.
Glad that it went well otherwise. You are right about the transport for him. I paid a lot of fees just for the same reason. Sometimes the ease is just necessary for everyone to be able safely move about.
I hope you find time to release some tensions that are surely there, along with the sadness and the relief from "waiting". Yes, I know the feelings are there and it is OK.
A glass of wine helps.
Yes, it was what he needed. I pray that he will, somehow, get it stored so that he can know it is now over and be able to accept that. Sadly, it will need repeating by you, each time you see him.
It will be tough for a while.
Glad that it went well otherwise. You are right about the transport for him. I paid a lot of fees just for the same reason. Sometimes the ease is just necessary for everyone to be able safely move about.
I hope you find time to release some tensions that are surely there, along with the sadness and the relief from "waiting". Yes, I know the feelings are there and it is OK.
A glass of wine helps.
