JUSTUSNAK...Summer coming to an end!?

[AL]

I want snow! *stomps feet*
Tonight / Tomorrow the lows are expected in the 20's, but it doesn't snow here.

 

[justusnak]

So, 7 am I get a call from my step dad. He has taken himself to the hospital..again. He was already there Friday, I went, sat with him untill they released him, and I took him home. Got him settled and bought him 7-up...last Friday. The Dr said it was a stomach flu. This morning, he took himself back to the ER. So, I get up, got my coffee and my shower...and left. I was there all morning untill they decided they were transporting him to the next town, a bigger better Hospital. The conclusion was, his heart. So, while they transported him...I got my meds filled, bought a few toys for the grandbabies while I waited...came home...got hubbys dinner packed, fed the animals...broke ice that was about 2 inches thick since its been in the single digits here, stopped by his house and let his dogs out, fed and watered them and while I waited for them to go potty..I went to look for a few pieces of my mothers jewlery. She passed away 2 yrs ago and he has not let any of us girls have anything of moms. When I got there, I was horrified to find, he had sold every piece of my mother jewlery, including my grandmothers jewlery! I wanted to let the dogs in, and come home...but, I didnt...I made the 45 minute drive to the hospital. I have been there all day..they did a heart catheter ...and found the 3 main arteries are 70 to 80% blocked! Tomorrow they will do stints...I think. I left the hospital around 6 pm..stopped and took care of his dogs...stopped for a burger ( since I had not eated all day) then came home to care for the animals here. All the waterers are frozen solid! UGH! There is no kindling split...and the house is cold. Its 18 degrees outside. I split kindling...got a fire going...and tomorrow morning I will deal with the waterers. Need to get the heaters fixed up. Dang...im worn out. I have my coffee...and I am going to sit here and just relax for a few...I think.
I just dont know if I can do all this anymore...I mean..when my mother was ill, she made me promise I would not leave him alone. See, he has no family..well...none that will have anything to do with him. His own kids have shunned him! So, I made a promise to my mother...however....I had NO IDEA..he would sell off everything that was dear to me...there is nothing left in that place...that means anything other than a few pictures. I want to hate him...but I can't...Hate is a sin...and I promised my mother!!!!! DAMN!!!! I want to put a DNR on his files at the hospital...but thats wrong too...UGH! Why can't I be mean and vindictive!?? I want to! sorta.
Oh well, I am going to try to relax...tomorrow is another long day...for sure.

 

[lalaland]

what a lot to deal with. I'm sure hoping you are wrong, and that maybe he stashed the jewelry and things somewhere, packed them up?

I've heard this kind of story so often I wonder why parents aren't more careful to give things to their kids before it is too late - when 2nd wives and 2nd husbands take advantage of the situation and cut the kids out.

hope you can decide what you can do, and what you can't do - your mom wanted you to help him, but maybe she didn't want you to exhaust yourself/not take care of yourself in the process. If your mom saw what you are having to do, what do you think she would want?

If he did sell your family's things, what would your mom want you to do?

might be a way to figure out what to do, being that you are caught between a rock and a hard place.

hope things go better for you soon. take care of yourself

 

[Wifezilla]

Did he sell it to be mean or because he needed the money? If it was because he needed the money, I can't see hating him. I would sure as hell get copies made of those pictures though...STAT!

 

[Beekissed]

Tomorrow things will look better..... Sleep, perchance to dream!

 

[big brown horse]

 

[BarredBuff]

 

[TanksHill]

Hope for the best. Maybe he has the jewelery stored someplace else. Talk to him. Tell him what you promised you Mom. It might make a difference.

get some rest.

 

[justusnak]

Oh, he sold it all. I think for spite! I had asked him for a few specific things...only for him to tell me about a week or so later, he had sold it. I asked him why he didnt offer them to me to buy, he just said...you dont have any money, and I needed money. Well...he doesnt "need" money...he is still buying off of QVC. The house he lives in is payed for, by my mothers inheritance...all the vehicles are paid for..again, by my mother inheritance...he hasnt worked in years! Now, its all gone. I want to go in there and take the few items that are left...while he is in the hospital...but thats stealing..really, since there was no will..and "legally" he is entitled to it all. Someone please tell me its OK to hate him!!! I want too....but I can't.

 

[Beekissed]

One thing I always try to remember when someone rips off me or my family.....it's only stuff. It may have had some sentimental value to me and mine, but in the end I will not be leaving this Earth with any of it.

Maybe this will help you get over this feeling? I know it feels like crap when someone steals your parent's things....believe me, I KNOW.

But....they are the ones who have to answer to God for their wicked ways. If I let them make me feel bad, they have won. If I let myself feel bad over what they did, they've won.

When it comes to my peace of mind, I like to be the winner.....so I just ask God to take that feeling from my chest and He does....and I can go on living the life I already had before they interrupted it with their petty little lives.