Bimpnottin
Lovin' The Homestead
I'm going to throw in my own experience, which is what each of us is contributing...our own experiences, feelings, decisions, sometimes just as a means to share and at other times to influence, up to the person reading or questioning, how to use this information.
We got married in '98 at age 23. We needed our two years together to be "selfish" and learn who we were as a couple. We tried to get pregnant when we moved into our house, which ended up taking almost 2 years. We had our first daughter Dec '02. My husband was deployed to Iraq in 2004 for 18 months, so I pretty much told my husband that he wasn't touching me until he got back, because one by myself was enough. Our second daughter was our welcome present, and we had her 10 months after he got back. Our third daughter was a bit of a surprise, but a welcome one, 23 months after her sister . We thought we were done, but not doing anything to prevent future pregnancy. We got pregnant the end of 2009. Going in for our routine 20-week ultrasound turned into the beginning of the worst year of our life. We were shocked to find that I was carrying twins and immediately devastated to find out that neither had a heartbeat, so I had to be induced (worse than pitocin by about a million times) to deliver our stillborn twins at 20 weeks. My boys were only 6 1/2 inches long and only weighed 2.5 ounces. I have a picture holding them in the hospital with an entire hand only covering a third of my thumbnail. Those little hands left a permanent mark on our hearts. We were told it can take a year for my body to get back to normal. We've been praying to get pregnant again, because after having the boys, we realized that there is still room in our hearts and our lives for more kids. They would never be able to fill the space torn open in our hearts, but it opened us to the possibility of having more kids, and after a year of trying, we're hoping to give some more love.
So, in our case, becoming parents was the most important job that we could ever have. We thank God for our kids everyday, even as I mutter, "I love my children."
We got married in '98 at age 23. We needed our two years together to be "selfish" and learn who we were as a couple. We tried to get pregnant when we moved into our house, which ended up taking almost 2 years. We had our first daughter Dec '02. My husband was deployed to Iraq in 2004 for 18 months, so I pretty much told my husband that he wasn't touching me until he got back, because one by myself was enough. Our second daughter was our welcome present, and we had her 10 months after he got back. Our third daughter was a bit of a surprise, but a welcome one, 23 months after her sister . We thought we were done, but not doing anything to prevent future pregnancy. We got pregnant the end of 2009. Going in for our routine 20-week ultrasound turned into the beginning of the worst year of our life. We were shocked to find that I was carrying twins and immediately devastated to find out that neither had a heartbeat, so I had to be induced (worse than pitocin by about a million times) to deliver our stillborn twins at 20 weeks. My boys were only 6 1/2 inches long and only weighed 2.5 ounces. I have a picture holding them in the hospital with an entire hand only covering a third of my thumbnail. Those little hands left a permanent mark on our hearts. We were told it can take a year for my body to get back to normal. We've been praying to get pregnant again, because after having the boys, we realized that there is still room in our hearts and our lives for more kids. They would never be able to fill the space torn open in our hearts, but it opened us to the possibility of having more kids, and after a year of trying, we're hoping to give some more love.
So, in our case, becoming parents was the most important job that we could ever have. We thank God for our kids everyday, even as I mutter, "I love my children."