gettinaclue
Almost Self-Reliant
I hope everything works out for you.
OK, it's official. Your husband is a male...just in case there was any doubthe is willing to recognize them and work on them, even if I have to smack him in the head sometimes to realize.
I think an earlier post hit the nail on the head....it's not necessarily what is wrong with you, but with the mates you choose. You are probably a nurturer and want to heal and fix broken things. The fact that this man was single for 36 years is indicative of at least one thing...he cannot live compatibly with a woman but still likes to use them for the obvious reasons~sex, control, comfort.If this one fails, well maybe I should ask whats wrong with me.
That's a good first step, communication is key with any relationship.hillfarm said:well, we had a long, crying talk. He admits he is an alcoholic. Has asked me to help him find a meeting, he will go.
He also apologized a lot. He also made me realize I wasn't giving him much wiggle room and made him feel like he wasnt doing a good job with the kids.
I agree. I tended to over babysit him. He also wants therapy, he thinks he's depressed. i think he may be too.
We had alot of honest convo.
I also decided to concentrate on my career, and my self. I'm going to start running each morning, like I used to. Not for him but for my own self esteem.
Hubby also admitted to feeling fat and unattractive himself.
I appreciate everyone's input. Its good to have different viewpoints. I hope we are on a healing track. I feel much better today then I did before.
He is a good man, he's got problems like we all do. But he is willing to recognize them and work on them, even if I have to smack him in the head sometimes to realize.
I am holding out hope, now the rest is up to him. He also understands that i am too damn old to raise another husband. LOL.