Henrietta23
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My SIL bought all my niece's clothes at LLBean and Lands End to avoid the inappropriate stuff for girls but not everyone can do that. Hannah Anderson has cute things for kids too but that's even more $$$.
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CrownofThorns
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One of the biggest motivators to dress modestly for me is the fact that I don't want men thinking about me in the way my husband does when he sees me in something sexy. I wear plenty of sexy things just for my husband. But for him only, and only in the privacy of our home.
The thought of another man thinking about me the way my husband does disgusts me. I am his, and his ALONE.
The thought of another man thinking about me the way my husband does disgusts me. I am his, and his ALONE.
For anyone seeking patterns to make outfits similar to those linked to on the etsy site:
chemise pattern: http://www.festiveattyre.com/research/chemise.html
an Italican camicia: http://aneafiles.webs.com/camicia.html
another chemise: http://www.elizabethancostume.net/cheminst.html
some basic SCA garb pieces that are very adaptable: http://www.reddawn.net/costume/patterns.htm
I'm not into SCA but love the clothing
When it comes to dressing modestly, I think I do that unconsciously. I dress mostly for comfort, but also to look attractive and perhaps I can even say that I choose to look feminine, although at earlier points in my life I eschewed certain colours (like pink) in favour of dressing more rocker or alternative.
Around my home I prefer to wear longer length skirts with a not baggy but slightly fitted t-shirt or nice sweater, depending on season. When I leave the house I swap skirt for jeans or nice black trousers and add a fitted jacket. My style of dress has nothing to do with my husband's preferences, because he has always liked me for who I am. If he is with me when I'm shopping and I ask his opinion of something, he will say whether he thinks it is me or not, and I do value that opinion because I've asked for it. But he doesn't dictate in any way what I choose to wear.
I'm a Christian and I've never considered dressing plain because it is not in my personal heritage, but I do live in an area full of Mennonite and Hutterite colonies and probably see people from these colonies each week (shopping at a local warehouse store, selling produce at the farmer's market in the summer and fall, or enjoying a local living history village theme park). I've always admired their desire to live out their personal convictions.
I've never covered my head to go to church (Baptist) and my church is pretty casual when it comes to how the congregation dresses so I generally wear a more dressy version of my usual clothing. I do wear dresses/skirts to weddings or other special occasions, but this is maybe once a year or so.
I'm fortunate that my daughters (14 and 15) both prefer to dress modestly. They are both very comfy in their own bodies and have great figures, but don't want to put it all on show. They also both run cold so wear sweaters most of the year. They do fit in with their peers--they wear jeans and fitted tops/sweaters etc.--they just don't put much on show. They find it difficult to find jeans they feel comfy in, they prefer a higher waistline and don't like the feeling of skinny jeans at all so generally wear boot-cut. Both of my daughters as well as myself prefer one-piece bathing suits that cover the bottom and don't have low backs, because when we get in the water it is to swim, not to lie on the beach and burn.
When it comes right down to it as I analyze all of this I think we dress practically and to be comfy. I can't walk in shoes with any type of heel, and go bare-legged under skirts or dresses because I absolutely hate to wear nylons. I do have a pair of sheer stay-up stockings that I bought to wear to a wedding and a pair of semi-opaque black tights that I have worn under a knee-length pencil skirt that I no longer have, but I've had both for 12 years so that tells you how often I actually put them on, lol!
I think the comments above about dressing in a feminine style to distinguish one's self from men is interesting. A friend of mine whom I consider quite liberal in most of her views about life once surprised me by saying she wished she could wear skirts every day because it is just not convenient or comfy for a woman to wear trousers, that we're just not designed for them. It made me wonder why I prefer to wear skirts most of the time and she's right, skirts are just more comfy.
A piece of advice I was given at my baby shower at church just after my first daughter was born has always stuck with me, and that was that no matter what kind of day I was having to be sure to actually get dressed. Since I started my own business a number of years ago and working at home, that became even more important because I have clients come to my home office, and then there are just the usual daily interruptions like FedEx packages etc. Can't stay in my jammies all day no matter how tempting that might be some mornings, lol!
It's interesting to me that comments in this thread about making decisions together as a couple can divide people. I've been married for almost 17 years now and have always discussed big decisions with my husband and wouldn't have it any other way. I do often crave the biblical headship that he is supposed to take in our relationship and find that he can be too easygoing when I need someone to make a final decision, but we are both that way and we've found a way to get on with life. I think it comes from both being first-borns, we are both a bit on the control-freak side but not totally type-A so we both like someone else to make the final decision a lot of the time, lol!
I'm starting to ramble now, but I hope the links I've posted help!
chemise pattern: http://www.festiveattyre.com/research/chemise.html
an Italican camicia: http://aneafiles.webs.com/camicia.html
another chemise: http://www.elizabethancostume.net/cheminst.html
some basic SCA garb pieces that are very adaptable: http://www.reddawn.net/costume/patterns.htm
I'm not into SCA but love the clothing
When it comes to dressing modestly, I think I do that unconsciously. I dress mostly for comfort, but also to look attractive and perhaps I can even say that I choose to look feminine, although at earlier points in my life I eschewed certain colours (like pink) in favour of dressing more rocker or alternative.
Around my home I prefer to wear longer length skirts with a not baggy but slightly fitted t-shirt or nice sweater, depending on season. When I leave the house I swap skirt for jeans or nice black trousers and add a fitted jacket. My style of dress has nothing to do with my husband's preferences, because he has always liked me for who I am. If he is with me when I'm shopping and I ask his opinion of something, he will say whether he thinks it is me or not, and I do value that opinion because I've asked for it. But he doesn't dictate in any way what I choose to wear.
I'm a Christian and I've never considered dressing plain because it is not in my personal heritage, but I do live in an area full of Mennonite and Hutterite colonies and probably see people from these colonies each week (shopping at a local warehouse store, selling produce at the farmer's market in the summer and fall, or enjoying a local living history village theme park). I've always admired their desire to live out their personal convictions.
I've never covered my head to go to church (Baptist) and my church is pretty casual when it comes to how the congregation dresses so I generally wear a more dressy version of my usual clothing. I do wear dresses/skirts to weddings or other special occasions, but this is maybe once a year or so.
I'm fortunate that my daughters (14 and 15) both prefer to dress modestly. They are both very comfy in their own bodies and have great figures, but don't want to put it all on show. They also both run cold so wear sweaters most of the year. They do fit in with their peers--they wear jeans and fitted tops/sweaters etc.--they just don't put much on show. They find it difficult to find jeans they feel comfy in, they prefer a higher waistline and don't like the feeling of skinny jeans at all so generally wear boot-cut. Both of my daughters as well as myself prefer one-piece bathing suits that cover the bottom and don't have low backs, because when we get in the water it is to swim, not to lie on the beach and burn.
When it comes right down to it as I analyze all of this I think we dress practically and to be comfy. I can't walk in shoes with any type of heel, and go bare-legged under skirts or dresses because I absolutely hate to wear nylons. I do have a pair of sheer stay-up stockings that I bought to wear to a wedding and a pair of semi-opaque black tights that I have worn under a knee-length pencil skirt that I no longer have, but I've had both for 12 years so that tells you how often I actually put them on, lol!
I think the comments above about dressing in a feminine style to distinguish one's self from men is interesting. A friend of mine whom I consider quite liberal in most of her views about life once surprised me by saying she wished she could wear skirts every day because it is just not convenient or comfy for a woman to wear trousers, that we're just not designed for them. It made me wonder why I prefer to wear skirts most of the time and she's right, skirts are just more comfy.
A piece of advice I was given at my baby shower at church just after my first daughter was born has always stuck with me, and that was that no matter what kind of day I was having to be sure to actually get dressed. Since I started my own business a number of years ago and working at home, that became even more important because I have clients come to my home office, and then there are just the usual daily interruptions like FedEx packages etc. Can't stay in my jammies all day no matter how tempting that might be some mornings, lol!
It's interesting to me that comments in this thread about making decisions together as a couple can divide people. I've been married for almost 17 years now and have always discussed big decisions with my husband and wouldn't have it any other way. I do often crave the biblical headship that he is supposed to take in our relationship and find that he can be too easygoing when I need someone to make a final decision, but we are both that way and we've found a way to get on with life. I think it comes from both being first-borns, we are both a bit on the control-freak side but not totally type-A so we both like someone else to make the final decision a lot of the time, lol!
I'm starting to ramble now, but I hope the links I've posted help!
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I am not married so I dont' worry about things like that.CrownofThorns said:One of the biggest motivators to dress modestly for me is the fact that I don't want men thinking about me in the way my husband does when he sees me in something sexy. I wear plenty of sexy things just for my husband. But for him only, and only in the privacy of our home.
The thought of another man thinking about me the way my husband does disgusts me. I am his, and his ALONE.
TanksHill
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Moolie, Great post and thank you for the links.
One thing I wanted to say. Not sure if this will come out right. But I don't think weight is an issue. It is possible for women of all sizes to dress both immodest and modest.
Just because a person is heavy does not mean they should not wear shorts, tank tops or swim suits for that matter. They just need to fit proper. I think sometimes the problem is the clothes that fit larger women nicely are more expensive. This may be why the plus size gals at WM look so bad. They just can't afford the proper fitting stuff.
As for what the kids are wearing today!!
It is hard to dress my 8 yo. I find it easier to shop good will for more modest selections then what is available in the store today. I will NEVER put low rise skinny jeans on either of my daughters.
I guess that's why I sew a lot of sun dresses.
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One thing I wanted to say. Not sure if this will come out right. But I don't think weight is an issue. It is possible for women of all sizes to dress both immodest and modest.
Just because a person is heavy does not mean they should not wear shorts, tank tops or swim suits for that matter. They just need to fit proper. I think sometimes the problem is the clothes that fit larger women nicely are more expensive. This may be why the plus size gals at WM look so bad. They just can't afford the proper fitting stuff.
As for what the kids are wearing today!!
It is hard to dress my 8 yo. I find it easier to shop good will for more modest selections then what is available in the store today. I will NEVER put low rise skinny jeans on either of my daughters. I guess that's why I sew a lot of sun dresses.
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gettinaclue
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I find a lot of the comments here interesting.
I dress modestly because that is how I'm comfortable. I am not comfortable showing my body - and wasn't comfortable showing it when I was younger and had a really good figure either - at least not for long.
I don't want a man looking at me and thinking things he shouldn't be, and I don't want a woman looking at me and thinking I'm a hoochie either. I feel it sets a bad tone to anything. I wouldn't want a friend who dressed that way around my husband and children, and frankly, I really dislike doing business with someone who dresses immodestly. I REALLY dislike having a woman's chest hanging out for me to see. It frankly disgusts me.
Don't get me wrong, if you got it and you want to flaunt it, by all means, do so. You have every right to. I just don't want to, and I don't want to look at the ones that do.
I really feel blessed that my daughter chooses to dress modestly as well. I freely admit to influencing her - it's what mom's do. We also have had frank discussions on what men think when they look at a woman - and about a woman - who is dressed like that. I feel confident in teaching her these things after discussing this with a few male friends over the years.
I love skirts...at least how they look on other people or on the rack or at the very least, the pattern. I look horrible in them. I wear jeans and a button down shirt or nice pull over shirt. I prefer my hair in a bun most of the time or a ponytail to keep it out of the way. However, I do wear it down and fix it when I go to work, but I usually put it up right when I get home.
I rarely wear make up. I think it's to much fuss, but every once in a while I'll go crazy and put some on, just for something different.
I will wear slacks to church, and occasionally one of the skirts I have, but mostly just jeans and a nicer shirt.
Personally, I don't think dressing this way makes me look like a man at all. I look feminine and I enjoy looking feminine. I just do it in jeans and a shirt.
I dress modestly because that is how I'm comfortable. I am not comfortable showing my body - and wasn't comfortable showing it when I was younger and had a really good figure either - at least not for long.
I don't want a man looking at me and thinking things he shouldn't be, and I don't want a woman looking at me and thinking I'm a hoochie either. I feel it sets a bad tone to anything. I wouldn't want a friend who dressed that way around my husband and children, and frankly, I really dislike doing business with someone who dresses immodestly. I REALLY dislike having a woman's chest hanging out for me to see. It frankly disgusts me.
Don't get me wrong, if you got it and you want to flaunt it, by all means, do so. You have every right to. I just don't want to, and I don't want to look at the ones that do.
I really feel blessed that my daughter chooses to dress modestly as well. I freely admit to influencing her - it's what mom's do. We also have had frank discussions on what men think when they look at a woman - and about a woman - who is dressed like that. I feel confident in teaching her these things after discussing this with a few male friends over the years.
I love skirts...at least how they look on other people or on the rack or at the very least, the pattern. I look horrible in them. I wear jeans and a button down shirt or nice pull over shirt. I prefer my hair in a bun most of the time or a ponytail to keep it out of the way. However, I do wear it down and fix it when I go to work, but I usually put it up right when I get home.
I rarely wear make up. I think it's to much fuss, but every once in a while I'll go crazy and put some on, just for something different.
I will wear slacks to church, and occasionally one of the skirts I have, but mostly just jeans and a nicer shirt.
Personally, I don't think dressing this way makes me look like a man at all. I look feminine and I enjoy looking feminine. I just do it in jeans and a shirt.
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I think you may be referring to what I said, and I do agree with you. Proper fit makes all the difference in the world, but often, folks wear clothing that is too small to begin with. The "big" women I saw, were wearing Daisy Dukes, and when you have more to hang out...more hangs outTanksHill said:One thing I wanted to say. Not sure if this will come out right. But I don't think weight is an issue. It is possible for women of all sizes to dress both immodest and modest.
Just because a person is heavy does not mean they should not wear shorts, tank tops or swim suits for that matter. They just need to fit proper. I think sometimes the problem is the clothes that fit larger women nicely are more expensive. This may be why the plus size gals at WM look so bad. They just can't afford the proper fitting stuff.
I've not always been small, and I know how to dress appropriate to my proportions and believe others do too. Nobody wants to see my big ole thighs hangin out some shorty shorts, and frankly, I'd rather not see theirs either 
I'm not trying to be mean, and hope no one took it that way Truth is, I've been on both sides of the scale, and dressed accordingly. Not too modest 'cause it's hot here in the South, but not making folks gawk at my flubber roll hangin out either 
When I was larger, I wore shorts and a tank top to go swimming(last summer) and now that I have lost 40 pounds....I'll probably still wear shorts and a tank to go swimming. I wouldn't feel uncomfortable in a swimsuit at either size, but my big ole booty at 40 pounds heavier may make other folks feel uncomfortable if I "flaunt" it for the whole world to see. Maybe now it wouldn't, but I still think I'll just wear shorts and a tank...it's comfy, and I don't have anything I particularly care to "show" everyone. I don't need others approval of my body 
I have no one I care to impress out there...though I do like to dress better for hubs in the privacy of our home
TanksHill
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No not to what you said in particular.
It just seemed for a minute there the thread had wandered to weight issues. Which I think is not the deciding factor. Well except for that lady you saw in the Daisy Dukes.
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It just seemed for a minute there the thread had wandered to weight issues. Which I think is not the deciding factor. Well except for that lady you saw in the Daisy Dukes.
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Yeah it did, and I thought maybe I started the decline. SorryTanksHill said:No not to what you said in particular.
It just seemed for a minute there the thread had wandered to weight issues. Which I think is not the deciding factor. Well except for that lady you saw in the Daisy Dukes.
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I don't think it is the deciding factor either. But I did want to toss in that climate is often a deciding factor for me...it's HOT here and sticky humid in the summertime, so that may play a role in the way folks think of modest and immodest in this region. If I was in Africa, I probably wouldn't dress near as "modest" as I do now! I feel bad for the Middle Eastern women, I'd pass slap out in all those clothes in the middle of the desert!!! 
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I dress modestly, almost too modestly. My uniform (girls call it that) consist of long johns of different weights, depending on how hot it is. It has to be pretty darn hot to shed them. Skate jeans and a long sleeve skate/surf shirt and a fleece. DH use to own a skate/surf shop and when we closed I snarfed all the smalls and mediums. Sometimes I will confuse the heck out of the girls and wear my long black velvet skirt. Oh and muck boots. I just realised this weekend all I own is muck boots and slippers. I use to dress quite classy and professional when I worked as a nail tech, but those days are over. I do have a few dresses and nice clothes but I am always doing hard, physical labor. Skirts get in the way a lot of the time. I do think I was born in the wrong era though. I have always been attracted to long skirts and blouses. Who knows, maybe I will say heck with it and wear skirts more. I do like the "freedom" they provide.
I use to dress quite classy and professional when I worked as a nail tech, but those days are over. I do have a few dresses and nice clothes but I am always doing hard, physical labor. Skirts get in the way a lot of the time. I do think I was born in the wrong era though. I have always been attracted to long skirts and blouses. Who knows, maybe I will say heck with it and wear skirts more. I do like the "freedom" they provide. 
