I agree with SheriM - if you decide not to keep her, the proceeds from the sale, should cover the cost of everything else you got.... which would mean all that stuff you wanted was free!
That is just the right way to gentle her down. While he (or you are messing) around with her work on the following:
Pick up each foot and pat the sole of it with your hand.
Press on her body - encouraging her to move away from your pressure. ( example - when you push lightly on her hip she should move her hindquarters away from your hands)
Take an old rug and place it on her back - then neck, butt, head. Just let it sit there a while then take it away and praise her.
Take the lead rope and make a loop (just hand held - no knots) and place it over her head and across her chest and pull against the rope. This should encourage her to move backwards and also would get her ready for a harness breast collar.
Take that same kind of loop and place it over her hindquarters - just under the "cheeks" and apply pressure. She should go forward calmly. A harness has a piece called the breeching that fits around the hinney here - it is used to stop the cart.
Basically anything to make her calm and un-flappable since a harness has straps EVERYWHERE.
You could also work her on a longeline to teach voice signals. Plus that is step one for "drive" training.
While you are messing - make it training. It can only add value.
She sounds like she wasn't worked with at all and maybe is even a little lonely. It's a shame if that is the case. You may find that her loneliness may make her more willing to do what you want or at least try.
Ernie and I had to go take care of the tags on the van, and pick up a new muffler for it, so made a trip count and swung by the feedstore to get our calf chop and flockraiser. Found a pretty purple halter for $10 for Emmy.
Oh, excuse me, Ernie corrected me today and said, "Her name is Emily, not Emmy."
Her new purple halter will match her lead rope. Haven't put it on her yet, as I didn't want to have to chase her into the barn. I'll probably wait until tomorrow and try to get it on her.
On our way home, stopped by where we thought the local farrier lives. Turns out, he and his girlfriend broke up, and she sent him packing!! She used to test the milk at the dairy farm Ernie worked for. She gave us a rabbit hutch...FREE! Course, needs a new roof on it, and one spot of wire needs patched, and a small door on the one end, but other than that, it's a nice large hutch!!
She tried to find a farrier for us, but had no luck. So we stopped at the neighbors 500 feet down the road to talk to them. They are the former stable managers for the local horse farm. They no longer work there, and board horses for a living. I inquired as to who they use for a farrier, and they said they do their own horses hooves. I felt like we had struck out.
I told them about Emily and they were really interested in knowing about her. They asked if they could come see her on Thursday or Friday! We said, "Please, do!" They said they will come and offer some advice, and give a few pointers to help us work with her.
They asked how she does if we touch her legs, and I told them, "Can't. She kicks if you touch her legs or feet." So they are going to help me work with her on that. They said a farrier will not touch her if she will not stand and let them handle her feet.
You will possibly also have trouble finding a farrier that will work on her at all due to her size. We had a 36 inch Shetland for years and had to pay extra to have her feet trimmed. They are so short that a farrier has real problems working on them. They have to go through all kinds of contortions just to hold the foot in proper position since they need both hands free to work on the hoof.
As far as those touchy legs. Horses are very sensitive about their legs. They even flip and stomp when a fly lands on them! Your job will be to work on touching - slowly calmly and with a firm gentle touch. If she strikes, bites or kicks - express your disapproval verbally with a stern voice but try not to jump away. At first work only on the front legs. Stay close to her body and face the rear of the pony for safety. Even a little twerp like your Em can cause a great big bruise. Just keep touching and touching and eventually she will just accept it and realize that you are not going to hurt her.
Then try to pick them up. You will be back where you started from for a while.
To pick them up - first lean against the pony to shift her weight off of the leg in question. Next slide your hand down the inside of the leg and cup it in your hand. Gently flex it at the knee and hold it for a second or so. Then gently set the leg down - don't let go and let it drop as that decreases the trust factor.
I have ridden and trained horses in many different disciplines all of my life. If you have a question - just ask!
OOOOOH, she is cute! We have been throwing around the idea of a pony for awhile now, but it always comes down to the feed and expense. Our dd's physical therapist and chiropractor keeps harping on how good it would be for dd.
My grandma used to collect a nice shovel full of fresh pony cubes and add them to about 5 gallons of hot water. When the water was completely cool, she had a miracle tea that she used around her amazing rosebushes.
You can also add a couple of Tablespoons of Epsom salts to the tea and it works wonders around your tomatoes as well!