Sufficient Self's Bible Study Group

[Rebbetzin]

That last part is the hardest part....her actions are so hurtful and deliberate that it will be hard not to say something hurtful to shake her out of this behavior. She professes Christianity but this is not the first indication that her Christian walk is not necessarily on the right path. I won't presume to judge but one has to recognize fruits....hers are questionable all around.

I really don't care about her character as it relates to her life, but merely the results of her actions and how they hurt my patients. If it did not involve the patients I wouldn't give it more than a grumble and a rolling of the eyes.

I will be praying a lot about this because this is a horrible way to feel. I don't like feeling angry and usually avoid it at all costs.

OY, this brought me to tears, honestly.... I felt the burden of your heart, in seeing one who is bringing shame and dishonor to the Holy One by their actions.

When believers "Take His Name in Vain" (Which is to say with the mouth "I belong to Him." , then live in such a manner that brings dishonor to His Name or that causes unbelievers to blaspheme the Holy One.) It should bring us pain and sorrow.

Since this person is not remorseful, and is not walking on the path, all you can do is pray and seek that if indeed she is a child of the Holy One, HE will put pressure to bear to change her heart. Then you need only wait for HIM to make the changes. If she is a believer, then you can just smile, and sweetly and honestly say to yourself. "I am praying for her today."

Be sure to let us know when you begin to see changes.
It may get worse before it gets better.

If one is on your heart,
they will seldom be in your hair.

 

[bambi]

I'm sorry walked away from the computer than pushed post and since have learned it is a co-worker you are speaking about. I will pray for you, I know this is very difficult on you.

 

[Shiloh Acres]

I wish I had words of wisdom for you, Bee, but you have my compassion.

I wonder what Jesus would do in your situation. It sounds like He would be angry too. He would probably help the ones being hurt, or protect them. Is there anything you can do for them in this way? If not, and you have to witness what's happening and can do nothing then I can understand it would be even more frustrating.

The person professes to be a Christian? Do they go to church? Would it be right to speak to their pastor, after you have tried to get the person to see how they are harming others if they won't hear you?

Ah, I wish I could offer more. You have my prayers. The only verse that comes to mind, and I may be mis-remembering it, is something like the testing of our faith produces patience. I can't see why I'm thinking of that one in this situation though.

Well ... Just know my thoughts are with you. That situation I wrote you about pretty much boils down to one person, an outsider, deliberately causing pain and showing no remorse and professing to be a Christian too. Many's the day I've struggled to pray for them, and I thought I'd surely lose my temper too, though the one time she actually tried to push me to a physical confrontation, I felt a total ABSENCE of anger and was able to walk away. That HAD to be God. I won't say I don't still struggle with keeping a right heart and not becoming bitter, etc. Sometimes I wonder if God doesn't give us these thorns in our flesh and let them stay for a time ...

But it does sound to me as though your anger is justified (as is mine). Beyond that all I know is that I will be praying for you.

 

[Shiloh Acres]

And I wanted to thank you all again for recent advice to me. I did finally get both the courage and opportunity to talk to my boss, and it was very much the right thing to do. More than money, even, is restoring right relationship. I don't have a resolution yet, but at least everything is being openly and honestly dealt with and that burden being lifted is better than the financial one being resolved.

Besides, I KNOW that my Father will take care of me. He always does.

Thanks again for pointing me on the right path.

(Wanted to say thanks but didn't want to tack it onto my post to Bee, so as not to take away from her situation.)

 

[savingdogs]

You are so thoughtful in all of this, Shiloh!

 

[Denim Deb]

Shiloh, the verse you are thinking of comes from James, chapter 1.

2 My brethern, count it all joy when you fall into various trials.

3 Knowing this, that the testing of your faith worketh patience.

4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, lacking nothing.

5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God who giveth to all men liverally, and upbraideth not, and it shall be given him.

6 But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that waverth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.

7 For let not that man think that he shall receive anything of the Lord.

8 A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.

Then jumping down to verse 12 Blessed is the man that endureth temptation; (or testing) for whe he is tried he shall receive the cron of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love Him.

And also, Romans 12, starting at verse 17 Recompense no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.

18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceable with all men.

19. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves but, rather, give place unto rath; for it is written, Vengeance is mine: I will repay, saith the Lord.

20 Therefore, if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink; for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.

21 Be not overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

 

[Beekissed]

You all are so kind and supportive! I didn't really mean to vent but was just desparately looking for guidance and you gave me some great scripture and advice.

If one is on your heart,
they will seldom be in your hair.

I LOVE this! I will try very much to pray for this person instead of about her.

The boss called this evening and wanted to discuss our meeting we had earlier today in which I advocated for my patient, crying all the while. We had a long discussion and she promises that THIS time she will try to correct this situation.

I don't have much faith in her word as she never follows through, but I did get to explain to her that my issue with this woman is not against her but about her actions, that my patients trust me and us to give them pain relief and comfort and that I had to answer to God if I didn't stand up for what is right...not to my boss. My God is my absolute authority.


The boss didn't know quite what to say but it all ended pleasantly and I hope my words had some effect.

Thanks to you all, I have settled down and know for what I will be praying.....for peace, for truth, for the passing of anger and hurt. And, of course, for my co-worker!

Shiloh, I am so glad you came through on the other side of your workplace struggle. I think most of the struggles in my life have been staged at the work place....and that's a shame.

 

[FarmerJamie]

I wish I had pictures to share, but I don't. The weather has been simply horrible here the past few days with snow on top of ice, lots of power outages, accidents, etc. On the way home tonight I saw the most beautiful site along I-271 at the Harvard Road exit.

West of the higway, a new office park/hospital center was built in the past 5 years or so on an upwarding sloping hillside, sloping up westward, so the land has been smoothed out.

The late day, clear afternoon sun was in the perfect position - every tree, bush, light post, chain link fence still has a coating of ice. It looked something like what I think heaven might look like, it was as if the landscape was transformed into a crystal world and the sun's light was magnified by thousands of chandeliers. It took my breath away.

 

[BarredBuff]

Ummm Jamie......I think you thought this was your journal.

 

[FarmerJamie]

Ummm Jamie......I think you thought this was your journal.

I mentioned heaven