MorelCabin
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I totally agree! You have to let him be the head...and women DO get in deeper than men for some reason, my pastor has even told me thisRebbetzin said:My advice would be ... don't get "ahead" of your husband. He is to be your spiritual leader. If you get ahead of him, he may just 'abdicate"the spiritual leader role all together. Many husbands are quite happy to let the wife lead in matters of "church" or spiritual things. This is NOT good.Dace said:Can I ask for some advice? I am really uncomfortable about this but I trust you guys.
Now I am feeling this huge disconnect. I assume that he is more comfortable being a more lukewarm Christian which is not what I want.
My heart is a little crushed because I thought we were both headed down the same path although I have recognized that I am taking things further as I read Christian books, my bible and listen to Christian talk radio....all because I have a burning desire to learn more. He only picks up his bible for church and bible study. And that is ok, I mean we are each on our own walk with the Lord.
I am just not really sure what to say or do. I have just been praying that God lead me thru this.
Does anyone have an feedback on this?
Woman many times find it easier to be interested in matter of the spiritual realm. In Judaisim, women are not "required" to attend symagogue, their main spiritual duty is to raise children who will follow the Holy One. And it is thought women have an extra measure of "spiritual desire" to please the Holy One. (not always the case as we propbably all know many "unspiritual" women0
It is much easier for husbands if the wife will follow his lead, rather than for the husband to follow the wife.
Your husband may have some things going on that he has not shared with you... We all go through times of being "apart" from the Holy One, then drawing close... Maybe he is in an "apart" mode at the moment. Maybe he has a fear of something the Holy One may ask him to do. Who knows?
You can ask him to clarify what he means by "not going too deep."
You can make a "godly appeal" to him, expressing your desire to "go deeper" into your walk with the Holy One. But, make it clear you desire him to be the spiritual leader of the home.
Prayer is always a good thing, the Holy One is able to give you contentment in areas that are "lacking" at the momemt. Pray for your husband that he desrie to have a closer walk with the Holy One. But, DO NOT nag your husband. Do you pray together? I don't mean saying a grace at mealtime, I mean do you have a fixed time of prayer together? And that is something that is not an easy thing for most couples these days. Taking time to pray together.
"doing" for the church is not nessessarily Godly, we can become too busy for our personal time with him. Work on your own personal relationship with God and just be a shining wife...what God wants you to be FIRST is a wife and mother, and to obey your husband in all things.
I will pray for you Dace.