Wannabefree...guess what I got in the mail today!?!?!?!?

[moolie]

That's a tough one

How good a friend is she? Like the kind of friend you can say anything to? In that case I'd be totally straight and tell her what you told us: that you want the chickens in a good home--whether they are paid for or otherwise--but if she's not able to take care of them, you want them back.

If you don't know her as well, then I'm not sure how to proceed

 

[Wannabefree]

Write the money from those hens off, but that's just me. If she's really in need, you do a good thing, if not, things have a way of working out.

Thanks bro, that's kind of how I'm leaning except for the fact that she hasn't the money to feed them or a place for them

 

[FarmerJamie]

Write the money from those hens off, but that's just me. If she's really in need, you do a good thing, if not, things have a way of working out.

Thanks bro, that's kind of how I'm leaning except for the fact that she hasn't the money to feed them or a place for them

Would she eat them?

 

[pinkfox]

id offer to "chicken sit" while she gets settled and she can have them back once shes found a new place, got settled in and you knwo there going to be safe.
you get to keep all eggs during the time they are with you...(if you want them for the incubator ect)
right now it seems like the biggest concern is they dont even realy know whatthere doing in life and they want to take all these chickens stress them out more and not even be ready for them atthe new place (if they can finda place that will let them have them)

once there re-settled you can try to bring up the owing you money part, mabe theres seomthign they can do in terms of a service, help you plant ect to make the money up...but trying to move with a bunch of chickens is insanity.

 

[Wannabefree]

That's a tough one

How good a friend is she? Like the kind of friend you can say anything to? In that case I'd be totally straight and tell her what you told us: that you want the chickens in a good home--whether they are paid for or otherwise--but if she's not able to take care of them, you want them back.

If you don't know her as well, then I'm not sure how to proceed

She's a pretty good friend. I can talk to her about anything. This is just a bit touchy. I thought about offering to take them back until she's settled in at her new place with a place for them, then I don't care if she never pays me...she can consider them a housewarming gift in that case. I just want them healthy. The goat I GAVE her died

 

[Wannabefree]

id offer to "chicken sit" while she gets settled and she can have them back once shes found a new place, got settled in and you knwo there going to be safe.
you get to keep all eggs during the time they are with you...(if you want them for the incubator ect)
right now it seems like the biggest concern is they dont even realy know whatthere doing in life and they want to take all these chickens stress them out more and not even be ready for them atthe new place (if they can finda place that will let them have them)

once there re-settled you can try to bring up the owing you money part, mabe theres seomthign they can do in terms of a service, help you plant ect to make the money up...but trying to move with a bunch of chickens is insanity.

JINX! LOL! Great minds think alike

 

[hqueen13]

Why does she want to keep the chickens if she's unable to really care for them? I guess from her perspective she's probably caring for them just fine. People can get "used" to a situation in which animals are just not cared for as well as they should be. That's how abusive situations often get to the point where they are so bad. By the time the person wakes up and realizes that they are in over their head it is BAD for the animals.

How 'bad' is bad? Is it just not quite as nice as you would do it, or are the birds truly suffering? I'd be inclined to leave them be if they're just not quite as nice as they should be care wise. If they're suffering, I think I'd drop her a nice note and offer to take them off her hands, maybe buy all of them from her for a lesser price because she owes you? It might also be worth bringing it up to her and being gentle but requesting that she respect you enough to talk about the fact that she can't pay you for them. I would hate to see the friendship go down the tubes, too.

These are tricky situations, and if its like what happens to me, often whatever I choose doesn't work out too well. I hope you have better luck!!

 

[moolie]

That's a tough one

How good a friend is she? Like the kind of friend you can say anything to? In that case I'd be totally straight and tell her what you told us: that you want the chickens in a good home--whether they are paid for or otherwise--but if she's not able to take care of them, you want them back.

If you don't know her as well, then I'm not sure how to proceed

She's a pretty good friend. I can talk to her about anything. This is just a bit touchy. I thought about offering to take them back until she's settled in at her new place with a place for them, then I don't care if she never pays me...she can consider them a housewarming gift in that case. I just want them healthy. The goat I GAVE her died

Yeah, that's a good way to word/do it, if you can. Sorry to hear about the goat--was that a care issue or something beyond her control? That makes me even more wary of leaving the chickens with her while she's got so much else on her mind.

 

[Denim Deb]

I'm w/the others. Tell her you know she has a lot going on right now, and since you care about her, and want to make her life a bit easier for now, you'll care for the chickens until she's able to take them back. Tell her that you really want to be able to help her, and this is one way you can do so.

 

[Wannabefree]

The goat was pneumonia, from being out in the elements. She didn't know what was wrong with him. The chickens...are getting fed as far as i know, but she admitted to me they weren't being fed enough or right. I haven't been to her place in a few months, so can't say for sure, but it doesn't sound good.