Abifae - Ciao Babies!

[Farmfresh]

Hey Tish, zippers are easy! You basically just make an over sized seam, press it open and lay the zipper in the crack - right side of zipper to wrong side of opened seam. Then you carefully sew from the wrong side around the zipper. When finished you open up the seam with a seam ripper and ta da!

The meals and menus are all planned out. You just have to cook it and serve it onto the trays. When my D2 did it each resident - they don't like to be called the dying - has a meal ticket that tells which food goes on their plate. After the food is served up, a nurse usually serves it.

 

[abifae]

*nods seriously* I'm going to do a zipper on my next dress. Like a brave little monkey

I got some really good zipper advice this week too. I'm really looking forward to the next dress. It is several challenges. A zipper. A waist cincher. Doing a beaded necklace

What do they like to be called? hehehe.

The mortally challenged?



Going to talk to my step dad this weekend and go through cna.com or whatever the website is and make my life more interesting !

 

[Farmfresh]

What do they like to be called? hehehe.

The mortally challenged?

Usually they prefer to be called "Sir" or "Mam".

 

[abifae]

Oh that's right! LOL

When my sister was dying, she said I was the only person who would just TALK to her. Joke with her, joke about dying, talk to her honestly about my feelings, just chat....

It was like cancer was contagious.

Here's a news flash, we all die every day. We're all going to die some day and be finished. We're all going to know folk who die.

I don't see the Big Bad about it. LOL. I think it's a relief. Thank goodness there is a time limit on this crap!

 

[kcsunshine]

What a refreshing attitude, Abi. When my Dad died, he really suffered. He wanted to go and refused to eat. Mom would feed him tiny bits of applesauce so that he could take his pain pills. Our family took turns staying with him and Mom so he could stay at home. I think dying is harder on the family than on the person dying. Daddy was ready and wanted to go, we weren't.

 

[abifae]

Yeh. There are several people who made her cry by refusing to visit because they "weren't comfortable with hospitals". I will never forgive them that. Not that I forgive. LOL. But the person I've realized they are because of this.... I'll never be able to respect them.

She was ready to go far before the rest of them were ready to let her go, for sure. Severe pain and illness does that. DONE NOW! Uhm guys. Seriously. Done. *poke poke* DONE!

I was apparently the only person who would just touch her all the time. I just walked in to the hospital, pulled up a chair, pulled her arm to me, stroked her and talked to her. Her mom burst into tears because NO ONE was okay with being with her at that point!

Crazy. I had only a short time left. You better believe I was gonna spend it WITH her. Geez.

I was also the only person who made her kids feel okay about grieving.

 

[abifae]

Had to share this:

How many of us are swept away by what I have come to call an active laziness? Naturally there are different species of laziness: Eastern and Western. The Eastern style consists of hanging out all day in the sun, doing nothing, avoiding any kind of work or useful activity, drinking cups of tea and gossiping with friends.

Western laziness is quite different. It consists of cramming our lives with compulsive activity, so that there is no time left to confront the real issues.

If we look into our lives, we will see clearly how many unimportant tasks, so-called responsibilities accumulate to fill them up. One master compares them to housekeeping in a dream. We tell ourselves we want to spend time on the important things of life, but there never is any time.

Helpless, we watch our days fill up with telephone calls and petty projects, with so many responsibilities or should we call them irresponsibilities ?

Sogyal Rinpoche

 

[abifae]

There are these crazy things in the back that hold you UP!!!

It isn't all the tummy and shoulders that create posture! I think 15 years of atrophy on the lower back from that car accident confused me on this point

I'm learning real posture!!

Also, I LOVE dancing!!

hee hee.

 

[Neko-chan]

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[abifae]

Yeh Zumba is huge here too!

I haven't done it. Ballroom is definitely for me though. Getting my back in shape!! When I hold my posture right, I don't hurt as much. Fancy that! LOL!!!

The sad thing is my posture is MUCH better than most folk's.