Bee~ Journal of then...

[Beekissed]

New drama in the Bat's cave this weekend. Bat and Big Sis brought a load of her stuff and we snuggled down to talk and listen to the rain.

The mail came and I got a certified letter/package.

Two of my evil sisters are filing for custody of my dad, stating mother is not "looking out for his best interests, medically and financially"......

This little woman who has doted on this man for 57 years and put his interests above her own~and her children's, I might add~and had to tear out her heart to place him where he can't hurt himself or her.....?

Who has scrimped and saved, fed 9 children on $25 a week all those years, who lived on a homestead for 9 years without electricity or running water and worked like a slave all these years?

Who was a caring, nurturing, loving little spark of life to all her children and all who know her?

Who pays all the bills from Dad's measly little monthly check, while maintaining the home, doing all the inside and outside chores, the electrical wiring, the plumbing, the painting, the roofing, the mowing and getting in firewood....with absolutely NO help from these children who live 15 minutes away and NEVER visit or even call on Father's or Mother's Day, or any other day, for that matter....?

This, my friends, is proof that some creatures in this world should be drowned at birth!

On Oct. 9th, we will be going to court and put these people in their place...at least their earthly place. I imagine God will take care of their eternal resting place..... :/

 

[Farmfresh]

Just WHAT exactly do they think they would DO with him IF they got custody? Are they going to move him into THEIR house?!

Someone with Altz is a handful to care for even if they are meek and mild mannered to start with. Very frustrating for both of you. I am so sorry. I'll be praying for both of you.

 

[Quail_Antwerp]

Obviously they have no clue what care an Altz patient requires, or how demanding it can be.

They should talk to my Aunt. Or even my Step Grandmother. My Aunt took control of my Grandmother who has Altz and my Step Grandmother took care of my Grandfather who had Altz. Both women saw a decline in their own health, and battled depression, and anger issues.

My Aunt got into the habit of lashing out at anyone who offered any help, because the help they offered wasn't the kind of help she wanted. (She wanted everyone to send her $ instead of coming down and relieving her).

My Grandmother wanted/needed someone to come and relieve her, and instead they sent her $. Maybe visited 1x a year. My Grandmother nearly killed herself caring for Grandpa.

One week trying to care for an Altz patients and your sisters will be nuts themselves.

 

[Farmfresh]

The Alz patient in our life was a tiny little 88+ year old saint of a woman.

A woman who with her twin sister, spent all of her extra time at the local Christian mission or taking care of the old people in her neighborhood who couldn't take care of themselves. (Some of those "old people" were years younger than they were!) When the twin sister developed heart trouble, Aunt Emma developed the Alz. When her sister finally died, Emma was totally lost. (I think God gave Alz to Emma to spare her from her identical twins death).

Long story short. My MIL who was the closest relative to Aunt Emma (and had been the closest to her for ever) tried to take care of her beloved Aunt in her home. This tiny Christian woman was a total terror - a regular hell on wheels. Finally MIL realized that a hospital environment was the only way. When Emma was moved to a good facility with trained caring nurses, (yes Bee we found some good ones!) everything went much smoother for everyone involved. Everyone ESPECIALLY Emma was more comfortable and much happier. Eventually Emma passed through the violent stages. She became a sweet little girl back in Iowa again. She loved it best when her "grandma", my MIL, came visiting. She was 97 when she died and quite happy till the end.

It just shows that good care in the right place can make for a happy ending. It also shows that Alz is not to be triffled with!

 

[Beekissed]

They are TELLING him that he can come home with them and they will buy him a truck and he can drive again. How cruel can folks be? Neither one has the time nor the desire to care for him at home. They would be putting him in a facility of their choice and be able to control his finances and medical care.

This is the primary goal of these.....people..and I use that term lightly. :/

They are doing this to hurt my mother....none of us have yet to figure out just why they wish to do this but we've put it down to sheer mental illness on their part. They are, after all, their father's daughters....

These are the same children who wouldn't talk to my parents for about 15 years, wouldn't let them see the grandkids, spoke hatred and bile against my father for all of those years.....and now they want to dictate his care and money(which there is precious little of)? Seems like a good opportunity for revenge, if you ask me.

And the plot thickens......

 

[Farmfresh]

Ah... money. Truly the root of all evil.

 

[dragonlaurel]

. . .
The mail came and I got a certified letter/package. Two of my evil sisters are filing for custody of my dad, stating mother is not "looking out for his best interests, medically and financially"......

This little woman who has doted on this man for 57 years and put his interests above her own~and her children's, I might add~and had to tear out her heart to place him where he can't hurt himself or her.....?
Who has scrimped and saved, fed 9 children on $25 a week all those years, who lived on a homestead for 9 years without electricity or running water and worked like a slave all these years?
Who was a caring, nurturing, loving little spark of life to all her children and all who know her?
Who pays all the bills from Dad's measly little monthly check, while maintaining the home, doing all the inside and outside chores, the electrical wiring, the plumbing, the painting, the roofing, the mowing and getting in firewood....

with absolutely NO help from these children who live 15 minutes away and NEVER visit or even call on Father's or Mother's Day, or any other day, for that matter....?
On Oct. 9th, we will be going to court and put these people in their place...at least their earthly place. I imagine God will take care of their eternal resting place..... :/

Sounds like they have never tried to care for someone with dementia or Alz. They don't know what they are in for. Especially getting SuperBee mad. She can take down pain in the case, petty, incompetent people with style.

If it's a town where everybody knows each other, you can prove that they were never around to see their parents- by asking the neighbors to back you up. They notice who visits. Phone records could show when and how often people call. Hope it gets dropped fast, but you can win either way.

15 years of not being around, bad mouthing, and withholding grandkids can easily backfire on them in court. Shows what kind of people they really are.

 

[Farmfresh]

 

[Beekissed]

Yep! Not to mention the other 6 siblings, one of Dad's brothers and the Bat will all be lined up on one side of the dispute to attest to Mother's competency in this matter.

It ought to be quite an event...the first time the whole family has been together in one place since we all lived at home!

The Bat is trying to be strong throughout all these troubles, but her strength is waning, I'm afraid. She hasn't been sleeping or eating and her old health problems are trying to rear their ugly heads.

I can't wait to get her up here and care for her......

 

[dragonlaurel]

So now we know what you guys do for a family reunion.
Hey everybody... Oct 9th, ... let's meet at the courthouse. I hope your Mom starts feeling herself again soon.



I hope that wasn't out of line- just trying to give you a laugh. You probably need ti.