@baymule Your great grandmother was RIGHT! I don't mind helping the kiddos, but I have told them multiple times to let me know they need help before it becomes a BIG problem. Case in point - DH's son - he's been out of work for several months. He gets a nice disability check, and his girlfriend (housemate) has a decent job. So, color me surprised when he calls the other day and says he's about to be evicted. He's two months behind in rent and papers have been served. So, tell me WHY he didn't let us know the first month instead of letting this issue grow until it reached the 4K mark????!!!!!
OMG - grrrr. That's a big ol' chunk to lay out when you're not expecting it. And, just at the time we're moving DH's mom to our area. So, as part of the payback - dear step-son is going to do the biggest part of that move. He's not working, he's got a big ol' truck... yep - he's gonna move his ma-maw from Livingston to south of Houston. I have spoken - so shall it be!
I even had a talk with DH the other day because as I'm going through the AMEX bill I see that he's doling out money here for this charity and money there for another charity, etc. And, while I believe we should all help if we are blessed enough to do so - I asked him to stop donating to the big formal charities. I prefer that our money go to help people that we KNOW are going to receive the help. For instance, I bought a nice pair of boots for one of our students before school started. I know the family, his brothers have all helped me out on the farm so when we saw the state his boots were in (probably passed down from his 3 big brothers) I made an 'anonymous' donation and he got a great new pair of boots. The cost to me...$250 bucks - but he had a million dollar smile on his face so I got a great deal!
I am a firm believer in that it takes a village!
I told my son when he bought a house last year - house payments come before food! But, if you get in trouble let me know. ( I consider his house an investment in MY future, lol.) He's got a separate suite on one side of the house that has my name all over it!
Sorry, that was just my own personal whine fest.
Fall is in the air! And there's a little 'something, something' brewing in the tropics.
Happy Monday!
It's my own little "project" area.
It doesn't even have to be just financial, it's a little emotional. But, I believe I would be fine with about a month long vacation. Then I would go back or just quit. Like FEM, could do it but, just used to having a "little extra for spending". Plus, for me, it's also got some social connections -- I'm here alone -- will be 71 in Jan.
Now I have piles of it to burn just from the yard and barnyard. Rain again tomorrow night. 
We are 23" over average for the year right now....with 3 more months to go. Sure hope this doesn't mean snow will be a big winter thing. I hate snow 
