Mackay
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Modern pioneer, back to that topic about your kids in the woods...
You have to always be very careful. We had a bad experience with my son when he was in kindergarden.
Trav started to like to play with fire. I caught him a couple of times and tried to teach him not to to no avail. Then one day he lit the bathroom in school on fire! I was shocked. My sweet little boy doing this! I couldn't believe it. Fortunately no bad damage done to the room.
So counselors got involved and out came the whole ball of wax.
Trav had been playing in construction dirt piles across the street with his dirt bike with the "other guys". A whole bunch of boys rode the dirt piles there. Turns out one of these other guys, age 16 is a known pedophile out on probation and he had taken Trav into the port a potty on this construction site and exposed himself and tried to get Trav to do the same. Now what turned the counselor on to this possibility that Trav was in some kind of trouble was that often, but not always of course, kids that are abused sometimes turn to playing with fire. Trav had also taken to lying, which he had never done, and to bad moods which I had noticed but didn't see how to get to the bottom of it.
Turns out that this 16 year old kid and another kid were also fire players and they were teaching Trav fire play. Next step was police involvement.
Since this kid already had a record it was not hard. Trav went to the police station, as they had already picked this kid up for questioning thanks to the counselor. Trav identified him through a one way window and told the police exactly what happened. No trial. nothing. Since the kid was on parole he got sent right up the river till at least age 18 was the last we heard.
I tell you when Trav came home that day he was so proud to have put his finger on this guy. The counselor and the police investigator were just great with him. It was a healing for him. He never went near fire again. (He's 20 now and I'm still proud of him. His nature is that of protector of living things.) a few months later we received a letter from the court about what was to happen to this kid and Trav and I sat down and read it together. Justice had been done, at least in Travs mind. He was quite satisfied. ... The other kid that was marginally involved moved away so that was the end of him for us.
You need to know who your kids are with and what their history and reputation is. I would not rule out a 17 year old boy just because of his age. There are millions of fine 17 year old boys out there who would not be thinking in this line at all. But you do need to know who each one is that comes around your family. And most of all you need to educate your children from a very young age what the boundaries are. Your best protector of your child is your child. The world is full of possibilities. This could happen at church, at school, at a relatives home, in a neighbors back yard, and sure enough we have seen plenty of that on the news...
For my son, he learned at a tender age in Kindergarden, and the hard way. If I had taught him sooner there may have been less of a problem because he would have had the words and sense to tell me what these kids had been up to... he did have the sense to say no...but it never crossed my mind that there were such "bad kids" around.. They intrigued this little guy with their games of fire and secrets...if he had not acted out by setting a fire at school who knows how far it would have gone and I was really thankful to this counselor for her insight and help.
You have to always be very careful. We had a bad experience with my son when he was in kindergarden.
Trav started to like to play with fire. I caught him a couple of times and tried to teach him not to to no avail. Then one day he lit the bathroom in school on fire! I was shocked. My sweet little boy doing this! I couldn't believe it. Fortunately no bad damage done to the room.
So counselors got involved and out came the whole ball of wax.
Trav had been playing in construction dirt piles across the street with his dirt bike with the "other guys". A whole bunch of boys rode the dirt piles there. Turns out one of these other guys, age 16 is a known pedophile out on probation and he had taken Trav into the port a potty on this construction site and exposed himself and tried to get Trav to do the same. Now what turned the counselor on to this possibility that Trav was in some kind of trouble was that often, but not always of course, kids that are abused sometimes turn to playing with fire. Trav had also taken to lying, which he had never done, and to bad moods which I had noticed but didn't see how to get to the bottom of it.
Turns out that this 16 year old kid and another kid were also fire players and they were teaching Trav fire play. Next step was police involvement.
Since this kid already had a record it was not hard. Trav went to the police station, as they had already picked this kid up for questioning thanks to the counselor. Trav identified him through a one way window and told the police exactly what happened. No trial. nothing. Since the kid was on parole he got sent right up the river till at least age 18 was the last we heard.
I tell you when Trav came home that day he was so proud to have put his finger on this guy. The counselor and the police investigator were just great with him. It was a healing for him. He never went near fire again. (He's 20 now and I'm still proud of him. His nature is that of protector of living things.) a few months later we received a letter from the court about what was to happen to this kid and Trav and I sat down and read it together. Justice had been done, at least in Travs mind. He was quite satisfied. ... The other kid that was marginally involved moved away so that was the end of him for us.
You need to know who your kids are with and what their history and reputation is. I would not rule out a 17 year old boy just because of his age. There are millions of fine 17 year old boys out there who would not be thinking in this line at all. But you do need to know who each one is that comes around your family. And most of all you need to educate your children from a very young age what the boundaries are. Your best protector of your child is your child. The world is full of possibilities. This could happen at church, at school, at a relatives home, in a neighbors back yard, and sure enough we have seen plenty of that on the news...
For my son, he learned at a tender age in Kindergarden, and the hard way. If I had taught him sooner there may have been less of a problem because he would have had the words and sense to tell me what these kids had been up to... he did have the sense to say no...but it never crossed my mind that there were such "bad kids" around.. They intrigued this little guy with their games of fire and secrets...if he had not acted out by setting a fire at school who knows how far it would have gone and I was really thankful to this counselor for her insight and help.