Lorihadams-- hi guys...been busy!

[lorihadams]

The latest rumor is that some of these people that are guilty of "verbal abuse or defamation of character" (with concrete proof of it) are going to be fired after the strike is over. My husband is taking the high road and is not retaliating at all or responding to anything publicly. They took pictures of the strikers and had a representative (our state trooper friend) confront the union reps that were there taking pictures of my husband.

There were a lot of people that told him that they have no hard feelings against him so the negative reactions are usually coming from folks that haven't really met him or worked with him. The supervisors at work told him that he shouldn't have anything to worry about that they knew he wasn't the one that would cause any problems when the strike is over.

It's just exhausting. He is checking the websites daily to see if there is anything new about him on there. With this weekend being so high profile for him it is just harder to stay out of all the drama.

 

[Wannabefree]

Sorry ya'll are having to endure longer. My father was a "SCAB" on several occassions too. The kids will hear things, I did. Have you explained everything to them so that they can understand it a bit? It'd probably help. I know they're young, but they may remember and think daddy did something bad. It makes me sick how the strikers will attack their own people. It's so stupid

Careful at the show. I'll be praying for ya'lls safety. I'd stand up for mine too, ESPECIALLY in front of the kiddos.

And yes, they will treat any others that cross the line next week the exact same way, even though they may be the ones being nasty and vicious to your DH this week. It's incredibly juvenille but it's what they do :/

 

[colowyo0809]

Morning Lori!

first for you and for chad. Strikes are hard and they suck. I've always been thankful that I've never been in a union, specifically because of the whole strike thing. Unions have their places, but not for me. I'm sorry ya'll are going through all this and congrats on the show being a success!

As far as the yelling goes, we don't have any kids of our own, but a pair of my nephews have been coming (with their parents of course!) to visit alot this summer and their parents use the letter system. If they don't listen badly enough during the day they lose their letter (Ales loses his A and Zach his Z ) if they lose enough letters in the week they don't get their small reward and if they lose enough in the month they don't get their big reward. The nice thing with this system is a)the rewards don't even have to cost money and b) it cuts way down on the yelling. And, the boys found out early on that Uncle Matt and "Aunt" CJ have the power to time out and take away letters as well, so, they have been behaving remarkably well I'm not saying there isn't yelling, because there is but it's a lot less than it used to be before they came up with this system.

Good luck at the show today! And I agree on sitting your children down and explaining what is happening at daddys work and why people might be saying mean and hurtful things. Kids understand alot, even at that age

 

[Wifezilla]

Growing up in Wisconsin, I am very familiar with unions and strikes. Mom was union and dad was management. Different companies, but the same union covered both of their work places. Dad made more money so mom never crossed a picket line and just took time off. But there was lots of tension. And mom had to listen to her friends rant and rave. And people like my dad had no real authority when it came to concessions. That was on the owners.

 

[Bubblingbrooks]

lori, I'm so glad there were no problems for Chad! YAY!

I wish I could stop yelling, too. I wish, too, that they'd just listen the first time!!

Try whispering instead

 

[Wannabefree]

lori, I'm so glad there were no problems for Chad! YAY!

I wish I could stop yelling, too. I wish, too, that they'd just listen the first time!!

Try whispering instead

But...she already swears she doesn't HEAR me half the time when I speak normally, or yell?!

 

[Farmfresh]

Less talk ... MORE action!

 

[hillfarm]

My two cents regarding yelling....

My oldest drove me insane. Honestly she was a hard kid. I yelled way too much. Then when she was about ten or so I noticed she would cower when I came into the room.
I was mortified. She feared me. I didnt want that . I was ashamed I was so out of control.

I made an honest effort to stop yelling. but truthfully I didnt stop losing my temper till she moved out. With my two younger ones, I have a great relationship. I do NOT yell ever. I get irritated, but I respond much calmer.
These guys respond in a normal way and hear me and dont challenge me. My oldest always usurped my authority and made me defensive.

I also think having a healthy marriage and being older helped too. But my oldest child and I were a bad combo. She and I are bad for eachothers sanity.

 

[Bubblingbrooks]

lori, I'm so glad there were no problems for Chad! YAY!

I wish I could stop yelling, too. I wish, too, that they'd just listen the first time!!

Try whispering instead

But...she already swears she doesn't HEAR me half the time when I speak normally, or yell?!

Every child can here anything that is being whispered

 

[Britesea]

I very rarely yell, so when I do, EVERYONE stops what they are doing. Most of the time when they were young, I would count to three and then it was a quick swat. Then came the day I came into the living room and found the dog lolling on the couch, which is a no-no. I told her to get down, and she just looked at me. Without stopping to think, I firmly said "One!" The dog got the most stricken look I've ever seen on an animal and DIVED off the couch! It was a hoot!

I did more yelling at my youngest, as he got closer to 18 -- maybe just getting tired of taking care of kids? lol