MyKidLuvsGreenEgz .. .. COLORADO IS BURNING

[MyKidLuvsGreenEgz]

He's not even close to that. in another 30 min or so, he'll come out of it and apologize. He's getting close. I hope. This one was a doozy. Might even have to get rid of the dog, the goats, the house, the husband, and most of the chickens, and move to a soundproof house with a tantrum room.

 

[abifae]

How would that help? He'll learn to outgrow it. Giving up your life for his is a lose-lose.

He's pretty high functioning He'll get past it with time.

 

[MyKidLuvsGreenEgz]

It would help because I'm already stretched too thin.

 

[abifae]

Well, how many years til he'll be ready to move out on his own?

 

[MyKidLuvsGreenEgz]

At this rate? 10? 15? 100? No clue.

He wanted to leave today, to live on the streets. I tried to explain to him that unless he took his seizure meds with him, that he'll have full-blown seizures again, and while he's convulsing on the floor, chances are someone will rob him. You know Denver. Some good and lots bad. Totally could happen. I finally talkd him into staying but I don't know. He has no understanding at all about jobs, money, how to go about getting groceries, health, and hygiene. I have to make him take a shower or else he'd go weeks without one.

I gotta get off and lay down. Between the puppy whining and my son sulking in his bedroom, and this almost 100 degree heat, I'm beat. Beat down.

 

[abifae]

Well, neither do most kids who move out on their own.

He can speak. He is able to do school. He just has slightly less common sense than average, but... most kids really don't have much at all when they first move out. Kids are morons until their mid 20s, at best.

And brain cooties are genetic So take time for you to have your own meltdowns.

 

[MyKidLuvsGreenEgz]

He seems to be mostly out of the meltdown now. I wonder if it was the increase in his seizure meds this morning? But ... by a couple of hours ago, he was nice again. Even helped me gather the chickens in, and got the goat for me to milk her. Without complaining.

Making farmer's cheese now. Trying something new. Usually use white vinegar but using apple cider vinegar this time. And instead of making it savory with herbs, adding honey and dried fruit.

Hope it'll turn out ok.

 

[MorelCabin]

my son used to have some kind of melt down between the ages of about ten and 16. They were horrible. he'd get off the schoolbus, come in screaming and scream for 3 hours non stop. It was very very hard to deal with, in fact i had a breakdown over it at one point. It is alot more than the meltdowns though, they are the icing on the cake, but the rest of it isn't easy either. you have to find a way to get some time away from him.
Do you find they are triggered by anything in partcular? Crowds, food, lack of food...

 

[abifae]

Auntie dumps max and ed together and escapes to my house about once a month :d

 

[Farmfresh]

I think Morel hit a nail on the head. A lot of this has to do with age as much as autism. Kids his age are all nuts. Period. End of story.

As he gets older he will mature and learn more about how to handle the sensations that barrage him. He may never get as good as it as Abi is. I think she is special in how she can read and understand her mind body connection. Besides that he is a boy soon to be a man. Men just aren't as sensitive to that sort of thing.

You also need to take a lesson from Wifezilla. You need time to take care of YOU. Even if it is ten minutes of noticing how blue the sky is or snuffing a goat while you milk. Your inner peace is important for your son and your hubby alike.

Remember we are eternal souls and this life is for learning. It will all be water under the bridge in 200 years or so.