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Bubblingbrooks said:
Hey! I grew up PB too :)
That is great. :)

We left our PB church a while after getting married because our particular church was getting smaller and smaller to the point of stagnation. :(

I really miss the Lords Supper services we had there with a single goblet of wine passed hand to hand and tearing off a bit from a real homemade loaf. The symbolism was so much more alive and meaningful and the atmosphere was full of gratitude and emotion.

We also had a early morning service of prayer, devotions and singing. There were no instruments played for that service, but the heartfelt worship and singing with the dawn light flooding into the chapel was wonderful.
 

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chickenone I can't understand why you want to attract a man if you wouldn't want to marry :lol: I finally found ONE I can tolerate for the most part ;) I aint lettin him get loose!!! :lol:

I seriously don't know what I'd do without the hubster...though he does get under my skin about certain things I'm POSITIVE I getunder his skin sometimes too :hide I need my own personal royal pain in the rear though to keep me straight and grounded :hu I used to think I wanted to stay single too, but uhhh...now I don't have a clue why I thought that :lol:

I don't dress too modest, but I don't want to attract "other" men either. I dress comfortably, and somewhat flattering to my figure, but it's for ME and HUBS :hu So, I say that to say that I kind of get where everybody is coming from on this. I dunno that I attract anybody with the way I dress, and if I do I rarely am made aware of it anyway. I just dress to suit myself, no style per se, just comfortable and not "hoochie." I have a 14 year old that would wear the current "styles" if I let her :rolleyes: but honestly, most of them are pretty inappropriate. Some things should NOT hang out in public, whether they look nice or not IMO. That's not *just* females, but goes for the men as well. I think real "style" is at least leaving them guessing a bit instead of gawking if folks are so inclined to look in the first place. Just my opinion ;)
 

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I agree with you Wannabefree. I don't think letting it ALL hang out is the way to go. Just enough. :)

Why would I want to attract a man and not marry him?? There are plenty of ways to have fun with a man without having to give up my freedom. ;)
 

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chickenone said:
I agree with you Wannabefree. I don't think letting it ALL hang out is the way to go. Just enough. :)

Why would I want to attract a man and not marry him?? There are plenty of ways to have fun with a man without having to give up my freedom. ;)
I'm a germophobe :p I couldn't do it. :idunno I don't let much of anything hang out :lol: Marriage is a hoot! :D I get to pick on the same guy now for the rest of my life and he even thinks it's funny most days...my dream come true!!! :gig
 

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yeah tried marriage a couple of times and it isn't for me. But I am single, not dead. You gotta do what you gotta do.

I like that everyone here lives by their convictions. That is awesome. I enjoy hearing about the way other people live and dress.
 

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freemotion said:
So many people raise their eyebrows when I say I need to confer with my husband before making a big decision. He doesn't give me permission....he trusts me. It is a sign of a good relationship and it is a courtesy. He does the same with me. It is sad that more people don't dignify their spouse in this way.
I just laugh and explain that we confer with each other over any purchase over $100 to help each other avoid impulse purchases and consult with each other over hairstyles and such. Although sometimes I will surprise him with a new hairstyle or something, but I generally presage it with discussion to see how he might feel about it.
 

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Well I'm chiming in late on this one, but here goes. I confer with Hubby about big decisions, just not small ones and he lets me choose my personal style, within our budget. I do dearly love shoes and I have a lot of jackets because I'm always cold.

I also have a particular style and shop the Goodwill and such for it, I wear jeans (straight leg, not low or tight) or cords with nice tops, either sweaters or v-neck t shirts or, when getting dressed up, things with lace, eyelit, florals, feminine stuff. My husband likes that look on me and I have always felt at home in it. I have had a few long skirts, but found they don't work well around the dogs and only wear them on special occasions. I don't do super low cut or see through or show my tummy. But I don't know if my clothing would necessarily be considered exceedingly modest. If I go swimming, I wear a one piece and one that covers my whole rear. If I wear shorts, they are longer ones, usually khaki.

I NEVER wear nylons and wear high heels only about once or twice a year. I would never wear a short skirt, I have Mary Lou Retten thighs! I am short, and while I'm not heavy and I go in at the middle, I look like a skirt walking around in something long and my waist disappears and I'm all chest. I guess I'm curvy and it is hard to hide it in clothes, I don't have to dress immodestly to look feminine. So I go for a simple look with sleeker lines and feminine colors like pink and purple and peach and such with my jeans. I wear almost no jewelry but do wear makeup when I go out.

If I wore plain dress living where I do, I would be mistaken to be a member of a local church in our area. While I like having them as neighbors very much, they are known to be very restrictive for women, and I don't particularly agree with their philosophy. So in my area of WA, "plain dress" would look just too much like I was one of them. They make up about 1/3 of our community, so I would not be standing out dressing plain; it is well known they do not associate with outsiders as it is now allowed by that church. So I would be mistaken to be other than I am.

I am glad we live in an era where everyone can express their personal taste and morals in their clothing but do not like sexy clothes on little girls, or on my grown daughter, who wears them! But that is the mom in me. I suppose my mother did not like some of the outfits I chose in my 20s either.
 

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I probably dress more varied than most folks on this forum. As far as I'm concerned, clothing is for protection from the elements and decoration. Modesty is irrelevant to me. I realize that makes me an outlier on this forum but I'm being honest. I have never comprehended modesty and never will. I've worn everything from renaissance garb to chain mail bikinis and harem pants to hunting camo and military fatigues to full length Italian silk dresses to attending naturist events. Generally, you'll find me in jeans and a t-shirt (usually with some geeky graphic on it) or a flannel shirt, but you're just as likely to find me in a skirt and blouse or a sundress. I know how to dress appropriately for the office or church, but choose not to dress that way in general. I wear a lot of sweaters for warmth. I tend to wear hats often, not for religious reasons but because my eyes are too sensitive to sunlight.

My grown daughter can and does wear whatever she likes. She has the body to be a model (but too much brains to fall for that scam) and has always had pretty good fashion sense. Ya'll would probably disapprove of her if you saw her purple mohawk that she wore to her highschool graduation. She knows that I consider it her hair and her choice, just as I really didn't care what she chose to wear to school as long as it was legal. (She was one of the less outre students at her school.) She mostly shops at consignment shops and goodwill. We've discussed how society perceives clothing and I've made sure she understands how to dress "appropriately" for a given situation.

I'm glad that I live where everyone can make their own choices about clothing and other forms of religious expression, including those of us who wear plain dress and those of us who choose to wear "immodest" clothing like shorts and midriff tops (not me anymore - too much middleage belly for anything like that) or bikinis at the beach or tight jeans and tank tops. It's one of the things I appreciate about not living in a country ruled by a theocracy - whether muslim or christian or jewish or pagan.

In my opinion, anyone concerned about "immodest" clothing that shows feminine curves, is welcome to wear more modest clothes, up to and including a hijab. But I am glad that it's not required where I live.
 

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I'd wear the top and the belt but the skirt would not flatter me. Too much material on someone my height, I would look like something from the Wizard of Oz. It would look nice on someone else though.
 
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