TanksHill
Super Self-Sufficient
enabler!! 
Hillfarm - good news, thank heavens.
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lorihadams
Always doing laundry
Do it do it!!! 
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hillfarm
Lovin' The Homestead
i would love goats. Buuuuutttt... I really dont have the room. I have covered most of the yard with chickens, dog, and fruit trees, and gardens. Goats would descimate everything. so not yet. but I have serious plans to buy more dirt for the future goats, horses, and pigs and the bunnies. Husband keeps telling me he wants to be able to leave for a week without worrying about the animals. Im thinking that will never happen. heehee. 
If I had the dirt, sigh I would be making my own goat milk soap, cheeses and yogurts.
Im already on your side of the fence, just waiting for a bit more dirt in my fence. :bun
If I had the dirt, sigh I would be making my own goat milk soap, cheeses and yogurts.
Im already on your side of the fence, just waiting for a bit more dirt in my fence. :bun
lorihadams
Always doing laundry
That's funny! My solution to smaller property was smaller goats!!! 
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lorihadams
Always doing laundry
Am I a bad influence or what?
TanksHill
Super Self-Sufficient
yes!!
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hillfarm
Lovin' The Homestead
Here it is, the last day of school. 
Summer school at Texas A & M begins monday. Ick. It wont be too bad. Just wish I had like a week I didnt have to deal with college or high school or anything. But its for a good cause. My certification and eventual bigger paycheck. But bummer.
But I have 15 hours of college left and I am DONE. You here me world DONE.
So... Due to the disgusing Texas heat, hubby and i are pretty much coming home and falling into bed. Barely doing much more than making a cold sandwich and kissing good night. It is too early for this kinda heat.
We are in extreme drought. My water bill has doubled. Dang.
So my teen daughter tore her father a new one in counseling.
I have been fighting for them for years, alone. They are too afraid to tell him how they feel. I finally got him into family counseling- had to have it court ordered twice. He was in contempt for failure to go the first time.
And the daughter said everything I have been saying in court. The counselor was floored. She couldnt believe that everything I had said was true. She assumed i was a vindictive ex. My daughter spilled everything, things i didnt know. She talked about wearing the same clothes everyday while at his house. Even the underwear.
How she would have to get up and care for her brother because they couldnt wake him. (Yet he's not on drugs, yeah right) How they never had food. They ate tortillas and butter for all three meals. How he screamed at them till they hid in the closet together. How rat droppings were all over the furniture and counters.
He denied it of course, but I had been telling the counselor this for two years now and she finally realized we were telling the truth.
We go back to court July 7th and he's not allowed to keep the kids at his house, he has to stay at his mothers when he visits.
At least grandma keeps food at her house. The teen no longer has to visit at all but she said she didnt want her brother thier alone since hes only 8, and someone has to look after him.
I have the best daughter ever.
My 20 year old daughter has moved in with my first husband. He's very very wealthy. She is blinded by his charm and money. She knows she has broke my heart by what she is doing, but doesnt seem to care. She's so arrogant and foolish. Dangerous combo.
I sent her all the police reports and restraining orders I had to put on him and she says its all lies.
She's such a fool.
He raped me, broke my bones and locked me into a bathroom for days. He was a monster a brutal demon. And I somehow made it all up and to prove it shes moved four states away and sleeps under his roof.
One daughter is my arch nemisis and the other my saving grace. How could I be the parent to both and they be such polar opposites.
My 13 year old is kind thoughtful and gentle and laid back. The other was always loud and harsh, hateful and in my face. I had to prove every thing I ever said. I was always under suspicion. I dreaded dealing with her.
The younger one respects me, is loving and hugs me. Talks to me about everything. I pray this one stays close and is at the bare minimum simply loyal and respectful. I dont expect my kids to do things my way, but I never expected the oldest daughter to be so viscious and hateful. I have no respect for her and that makes me so sad. She moved in with her bio dad's mom who gave up his rights to her at 5. She was 18 when she moved in. I supported it. Her choice. But NANA talked **** about me for two years, pushed her into having more to do with my first husband, because you know your mom lied about her so she was probably making up all the things about your step dad. So she fell for it, hook line and sinker. Called me every name in the book. Told me to write her off and she went to move in with my rapist.
Sorry for the long vent. But sometimes you just wonder what the heck you wasted 18 years doing. I gave up everything for her. gave her everything ( huge mistake) and for what?/? So she could go get herself messed up with a peice of crap I fled from in the middle of the night 18 years ago?????
Wish I could fix it all, but i cant.
I lost a friend I knew for many years to a hospital error. She gave birth four days before they mixed her meds and killed her.
then my father had a heart attack and refuses the surgery because he doesnt want them cutting him open. So I fear his funeral will be next. I just got where I liked my dad. He's an ass, always has been. But he had mellowed in the last few years. I think I have to. Funny how age changes you.
I think maybe that is why as much as I suffer with what my daughter has done, I simply know all i can do is complain and accept that I have no control over it. I have washed my hands of it. she demanded Inever contact her again. she will hate me forever and nothing I have ever done was good enuf or right.
Well I know I did my best. I did NOT lie and my conscience is clean. Sadly my heart is crushed. I was hurt so much worse physically and emotionally by my parents, but never would i have spoke to them or talked about them like she has. I just dont believe she has a conscience. I hope she grows one eventually.
sorry, its quite in the room today and i have too much free time to think and type. If your still reading this mess, just forgive a mom for trying to work threw her emotions and thoughts.
Everyone Have a GREAT summer.
Summer school at Texas A & M begins monday.
Ick. It wont be too bad. Just wish I had like a week I didnt have to deal with college or high school or anything. But its for a good cause. My certification and eventual bigger paycheck. But bummer. But I have 15 hours of college left and I am DONE. You here me world DONE.
So... Due to the disgusing Texas heat, hubby and i are pretty much coming home and falling into bed. Barely doing much more than making a cold sandwich and kissing good night. It is too early for this kinda heat.
We are in extreme drought. My water bill has doubled. Dang.
So my teen daughter tore her father a new one in counseling.
I have been fighting for them for years, alone. They are too afraid to tell him how they feel. I finally got him into family counseling- had to have it court ordered twice. He was in contempt for failure to go the first time.And the daughter said everything I have been saying in court. The counselor was floored. She couldnt believe that everything I had said was true. She assumed i was a vindictive ex. My daughter spilled everything, things i didnt know. She talked about wearing the same clothes everyday while at his house. Even the underwear.
How she would have to get up and care for her brother because they couldnt wake him. (Yet he's not on drugs, yeah right) How they never had food. They ate tortillas and butter for all three meals. How he screamed at them till they hid in the closet together. How rat droppings were all over the furniture and counters. He denied it of course, but I had been telling the counselor this for two years now and she finally realized we were telling the truth.
We go back to court July 7th and he's not allowed to keep the kids at his house, he has to stay at his mothers when he visits.
At least grandma keeps food at her house. The teen no longer has to visit at all but she said she didnt want her brother thier alone since hes only 8, and someone has to look after him.I have the best daughter ever.
My 20 year old daughter has moved in with my first husband. He's very very wealthy. She is blinded by his charm and money. She knows she has broke my heart by what she is doing, but doesnt seem to care. She's so arrogant and foolish. Dangerous combo.
I sent her all the police reports and restraining orders I had to put on him and she says its all lies.
She's such a fool. He raped me, broke my bones and locked me into a bathroom for days. He was a monster a brutal demon. And I somehow made it all up and to prove it shes moved four states away and sleeps under his roof.
One daughter is my arch nemisis and the other my saving grace. How could I be the parent to both and they be such polar opposites.
My 13 year old is kind thoughtful and gentle and laid back. The other was always loud and harsh, hateful and in my face. I had to prove every thing I ever said. I was always under suspicion. I dreaded dealing with her.
The younger one respects me, is loving and hugs me. Talks to me about everything. I pray this one stays close and is at the bare minimum simply loyal and respectful. I dont expect my kids to do things my way, but I never expected the oldest daughter to be so viscious and hateful. I have no respect for her and that makes me so sad. She moved in with her bio dad's mom who gave up his rights to her at 5. She was 18 when she moved in. I supported it. Her choice. But NANA talked **** about me for two years, pushed her into having more to do with my first husband, because you know your mom lied about her so she was probably making up all the things about your step dad. So she fell for it, hook line and sinker. Called me every name in the book. Told me to write her off and she went to move in with my rapist.
Sorry for the long vent. But sometimes you just wonder what the heck you wasted 18 years doing. I gave up everything for her. gave her everything ( huge mistake) and for what?/? So she could go get herself messed up with a peice of crap I fled from in the middle of the night 18 years ago?????
Wish I could fix it all, but i cant.
I lost a friend I knew for many years to a hospital error. She gave birth four days before they mixed her meds and killed her.
then my father had a heart attack and refuses the surgery because he doesnt want them cutting him open. So I fear his funeral will be next. I just got where I liked my dad. He's an ass, always has been. But he had mellowed in the last few years. I think I have to. Funny how age changes you. I think maybe that is why as much as I suffer with what my daughter has done, I simply know all i can do is complain and accept that I have no control over it. I have washed my hands of it. she demanded Inever contact her again. she will hate me forever and nothing I have ever done was good enuf or right.
Well I know I did my best. I did NOT lie and my conscience is clean. Sadly my heart is crushed. I was hurt so much worse physically and emotionally by my parents, but never would i have spoke to them or talked about them like she has. I just dont believe she has a conscience. I hope she grows one eventually.
sorry, its quite in the room today and i have too much free time to think and type. If your still reading this mess, just forgive a mom for trying to work threw her emotions and thoughts.
Everyone Have a GREAT summer.
dragonlaurel
Improvising a more SS life
Sorry things are going tough for you now. Unfortunately, you can't make other people do things that make sense sometimes. Parents or children. Some kids never learn things the easy way. Someday she will see through him, but . . . it may be a long time. It sounds like she inherited some of her Dad's personality/thinking,
so for now she is toxic for you. Wish that situation was better, but at least you can enjoy the other kids. They are turning out right and love you. Make sure you focus on the good in your life, so you don't get so discouraged.
lorihadams
Always doing laundry
Sometimes they just have to make their own mistakes and realize it for themselves. There's nothing you can do about it but let her go and do her thing. She's old enough to make up her own mind and she'll probably realize down the road that it was a bad decision.
