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Quail_Antwerp: Words from the Barnyard...
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Quail_Antwerp
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thanks guys.
this is like my worst nightmare. i was molested when i was 7, and when DD turned 7 i was like i just gotta get her to 8.
it just seems like a bad dream - and surreal. i can't fully describe i just hurt and my dd i have no idea what she is feeling - she hasn't even cried.
we're calling the number tomorrow morning that they gave us for counselling.
this is like my worst nightmare. i was molested when i was 7, and when DD turned 7 i was like i just gotta get her to 8.
it just seems like a bad dream - and surreal. i can't fully describe i just hurt and my dd i have no idea what she is feeling - she hasn't even cried.
we're calling the number tomorrow morning that they gave us for counselling.
FarmerDenise
Out to pasture
I was molested when I was 7 also. I wanted to get my DD safely past that age too. Once she was, I fell to pieces., and eventually found help.
I just really feel for you.
I just really feel for you.
justusnak
Almost Self-Reliant
Oh sweetie, I am soooo soooo very sorry your family is going through this. Crying is OK... just make sure you go the length it takes to get this dirtbag what he deserves. Have a little comfort in knowing, once he is there....the rest of them will " take care of him"
Blackbird
Goat Whisperer
Yeah, who knows, once he gets busted the other jailbirds might make him the prison b!@#$.
Not that makes it better or anything, but you never know.
Not that makes it better or anything, but you never know.
tamlynn
Lovin' The Homestead
So sorry your family is going through this. It is just awful.
Farmfresh
City Biddy
Unfortunately if this is his first offense he will more than likely just get a few months, a little slap on the wrist. He WILL become a registered sex offender, which helps in the future. Plus he will probably stand a good chance of losing any kids that HE has now.
The other sad fact is that child molesters usually are housed in a totally separate facility. If they are housed with other prisoners they somehow end up dead.
Wish I wasn't so knowledgeable about this stuff. Too many years dealing with "at risk" youth.
The best thing you can do is focus on helping the victim to heal. Go to see that counselor. Just support and LOVE that kid. Let her know SHE did nothing wrong and that the entire world despises molesters. The victims that have the hardest time healing are those that either never told or were not believed and supported. There ARE good men out there as well as bad women. Let her know that. Some victims end up fearing or hating ALL men. This makes it very hard to have any happy relationships later in life.
It won't go away, but in time it will be only a distant memory if you "clean the wound" right away and let things heal from the inside out. Sorry for the vet analogy, but it does seem to work that way.
The other sad fact is that child molesters usually are housed in a totally separate facility. If they are housed with other prisoners they somehow end up dead.
Wish I wasn't so knowledgeable about this stuff. Too many years dealing with "at risk" youth.
The best thing you can do is focus on helping the victim to heal. Go to see that counselor. Just support and LOVE that kid. Let her know SHE did nothing wrong and that the entire world despises molesters. The victims that have the hardest time healing are those that either never told or were not believed and supported. There ARE good men out there as well as bad women. Let her know that. Some victims end up fearing or hating ALL men. This makes it very hard to have any happy relationships later in life.
It won't go away, but in time it will be only a distant memory if you "clean the wound" right away and let things heal from the inside out. Sorry for the vet analogy, but it does seem to work that way.
Occamstazer
Almost Self-Reliant
I don't think you need to fear criticism from anyone on here.
And you know what? If you weren't such a wonderful parent, your daughter would not have had the courage and strength to tell anyone!
This is in no way YOUR fault, don't even suggest it.
And you know what? If you weren't such a wonderful parent, your daughter would not have had the courage and strength to tell anyone!
This is in no way YOUR fault, don't even suggest it.
freemotion
Food Guru
Aly, you reacted wisely. Taking immediate and decisive action against your daughter's attacker is the best thing you could've done in helping her to heal. And healing you, too.
It convinces me that you did NOT know what was going on. It shows me that you would not have stood by as some mothers do. And when you had some suspicions back then, you took steps to keep your children safe.
You are a wise and strong woman. I wish more moms were just like you. If they were, far more predators would be in jail and far fewer people would carry scars.
You are your daughter's hero. I'm so proud of you.
It convinces me that you did NOT know what was going on. It shows me that you would not have stood by as some mothers do. And when you had some suspicions back then, you took steps to keep your children safe.
You are a wise and strong woman. I wish more moms were just like you. If they were, far more predators would be in jail and far fewer people would carry scars.
You are your daughter's hero. I'm so proud of you.
