Quail_Antwerp: Words from the Barnyard...

[Quail_Antwerp]

If they are housed with other prisoners they somehow end up dead.

I vote for this scenario. I'm totally OK with this outcome for him.

Or the one blackbird suggested.

I also think I should be allowed to take the banding gun thingymabob that we use to put rubber bands on the calves....I think you know where I'm going with that.

wish i was sleeping right now. just can't. plus had a skunk issue outside.

tried to reply to your email farm, but it said that it couldn't be delivered.

FarmerDenise, your inbox is full.

free - my mom stayed with the man who molested me for two years after - after he had done it and after i had told her . i had an easier time forgiving the man than my mom. my friend over the hill was molested as a child and her mom didn't even believe her. i would never doubt my child. children - normal and well loved children - DO NOT make this **** up.

free, i don't feel proud. i feel like i should have known - that i should have seen something, picked up on something. the steps we took 1. weren't enough and 2. were too late.

right now sticking my fist in his face would feel really good. really good. but only for a minute.

at this point they don't even know if they'll get him arrested, and if he's arrested, don't know if it will stick.

i know he better not ever show his face around here ever ever ever ever...not if he values his jewels. kwim.

 

[Farmfresh]

Try to send it again. The rest of my mail is getting through fine. Check for a typo in the address.

 

[lupinfarm]

They actually often put these people in solitary confinement to ensure they don't get killed. A lot of these cases go unreported, and even more get a less than favourable decision from the court. My younger brother was molested once and almost molested a second time as a child by a boy his own age, and one a few years older. His school was actually instrumental in causing the first case, by leaving him alone with a child they already knew to be unstable. The second, he came running home as soon as the kid made a move and told us immediately.

 

[Wifezilla]

 

[Hattie the Hen]

Quail Antwerp,

I have read your journal for months but I haven't joined in the chat till now as I felt it was a conversation between old friends (I enjoyed it a lot) but when you posted about this horrible event I felt almost indecent in reading about it without commenting.

I think you have done exactly the right thing in talking about it -- you need whatever support you can get, from all your friends wherever they are. You are obviously a very strong woman & the one who has to hold the family together. I admire you immensely & I am sending you all the positive thoughts I can muster at this terrible time. I am so glad you are going to get counselling for your daughter & family. I wish you & your family well & I hope it brings you all even closer!

Hattie

 

[FarmerDenise]

I made room in my inbox.

 

[dragonlaurel]

Getting the courage to speak up was not easy. Having a good family is why she managed it.
As soon as you knew - you took action to protect her and prosecute him. That will go a long way to helping her heal. Get the family into some counseling so you all can work through the emotions. She may not have cried today, but she may have before. Knowing that her family is on her side is a huge help.

You have handled this right. I know you wish it could be handled in a much more violent way- but working with the cops is better. That way you can't end up in jail- which would take you or E away from your family. At least she knew that she could talk to you and finally got the courage to.

People that do this kind of stuff are very good about hiding it. I know. They learn fast how to be sneaky and make things seem normal. Being listed as a predator may help keep somebody else safe later. I wish we could round up a posse and "handle things" but I'd skip the bander. Just a sharp but rusty knife instead. It's probably good that I'm not a cop. Just a bit too much temper sometimes.

 

[ToLiveToLaugh]

Bless you. You are her rock in this storm. Which doesn't mean you need to hold it all together. It just means your love her and believe in her no matter what. And thank you for being that mom.

 

[Beekissed]

Aly...there are no words except how very sorry I am that this has happened. You are not alone in how you are feeling.

 

[MorelCabin]

Been through this...many years ago now. As angry as you are, one day God might show you why it happened. Forgiveness is key, there is power in forgiveness, although I do know it is way too fresh right now to be thinking about it. You are doing everything right. Just make sure your daughter knows that she was the victim here, none of it was her fault...often they think perhaps they did something...or they feel guilty about other things...that is where the damage comes from more than anything. She is a big girl to be able to tell about it. Be careful that you don't show her your anger too much, don't make her regret telling. Sometimes the anger/emotions involved are scary for a child.
I found out that our vitimizer was also a victim as a young boy...he did what he did because he was trying to get over the thoughts that perhaps he was gay...should have found a more mature person to experiment this on, but he was so damaged by what had happened to him that he wasn't thinking right either. Often there are reasons, but often these people are simply psychopathic in some way...hard to say.
I am so sorry this happened to your little girl, it is a very diificult thing to go through, and the statistics for this happening are unbelievable. I'll be praying for healing for all of you.