Ldychef2k: Notes from a Wannabe - Ldychef2k fesses up.

[noobiechickenlady]

I do not like storebought honey in my coffee. Or on anything for that matter.
But the raw honey at the farmer's market Mmmmmm! I only thought I didn't like honey.
I'm down to about 2 tbs too. And you know, almost anything will taste weird the first couple of times you try it. I try to give new foods I don't care for at least a week before I write them off.

 

[Wifezilla]

I use Splenda. I was a sugar junkie from birth (thanks mom and grandma ) and I still have a wicked sweet tooth. But sugar tears me up. Water retention, weight gain, high blood pressure, etc....

Splenda is a lesser of evils for me. I also use erythritol. It is a sugar alcohol, but unlike molitol, it wont give you an upset stomach. Dry stevia leaf works great in cooking and in teas, but I don't like the refined stevia.

As for honey vs sugar....well, if you are getting raw, unfiltered natural honey...maybe. If you are getting commercial honey you are just trading one highly processed garbage food for another. Sugar in the Raw is no better. Unless you are getting fresh cane juice, any sugar product is highly processed junk.

 

[Quail_Antwerp]

I guess it's good for me that my mom has bees....

 

[Ldychef2k]

Haven't had any sugar since Saturday. Don't even miss it. Yet.

Okay, I have held off talking about something for a long time because, well, it's just such a long and involved story and it involves my totally crazy sister whom I prefer to pretend doesn't exist. But today something happened that has sent me over the edge!!!

Let me lay some ground work so you will feel sorry for me and not her !!! LOL You'll see -----

My sister probably has a mental illness, probably histriotic personality disorder at the very least. We know she has Munchausen's syndrome. She has had, at last count ten years ago, 54 operations and her hospitalizations for nonsurgical issues approached 80 at that counting. She attempted to incise and drain her own hemorrhoids and had to go to the hospital because she nearly bled out. She unties her sutures after surgery so she will bleed. It's beyond horrible.

She also has Munchausen by proxy. She is an RN, which is dangerous. When her son was 13, he had mononucleosis. However, she told him that the doctors were wrong and he had cancer. She repeated that assertion a couple of years later as well. He is still without disease.

She also convinced her daughter (at 15, she is now 26) that she had a rare form of breast cancer that was passed down to her by our mother, who is adopted, we have no knowledge of her history, and so my sister blames mom for every illness. She so convinced her daughter that she was dying, that they went down to a funeral parlor to make funeral arrangements. The daughter is still just fine. This rare cancer was a patch of dry skin.

My sister taught her children (girl was 4, boy 3) about sexual anatomy by showing them where babies come out of mommy. She also regularly sat completely naked on the kitchen counter while shaving her legs in the kitchen sink. Even when the children had friends over. No kidding..... The kids lost all of their friends.

Her daughter is married to an Hispanic man. They have four kids. My sister calls them "those hairy Mexican monkey babies".

She has defrauded the Worker's Compensation system of more than $250K. She has yet to pay it back, even though she lost in court.

While she was married to her first husband, she was cheating on him with the man who became her second husband. The second guy got tired of playing her games and he started dating other women. She shot him in the leg from outside his living room window. Yes, he still married her. He is a cop. I think it made him respect her in some strange way.

Everywhere she goes, she "meets celebrities". She told me with great pride that she performed oral sex on Jeff Goldblum in an alley in New York. She also has flirted with Samuel L. Jackson in a 7-11.

But wait, there's more....

When she was married to her second husband, she became a secret dominatrix, and met her third husband. During their courtship, while she was still married to #2, she had an affair with another woman, whose life she completely controlled. Told her what to wear, etc. She got that woman (also a nurse) addicted to pain pills, she was caught stealing medications, lost her license, was prosecuted, and as part of the deal had to move to the other side of the country to start her life over again.

During that time, one of her oldest friends lost her husband. She told us that she spent every day for a month over at her house, helping her with grief. I spoke to this friend a few weeks later, and she had not seen my sister since the funeral. She had been seeing her third husband and using the friend's grief as a excuse to cheat on her husband.

Five years ago, she "divorced" our parents because they did not agree with her on a political issue. They are in their 80's, and she has decided to allow them to have contact with her. She found out that she was taken out of their will. I am the executrix and the power of attorney. I will carry out their wishes, no matter what.

You may not believe it, but this is just the tip of the iceberg. Mom and I made a list of her escapades after the "divorce" so that I can have some kind of proof that she is unstable, should she contest my position as executrix.

We have not spoken for many years. My parents asked me to try and mend the fences as a favor to them so the family could be intact during their decliing years.

I promised that I would be kind and civil and would do my best, but that I would not let her attack me and try to turn the rest of the family against me. And I have not. I have tried to be as normal as I can with her. But she will not allow "normal".

Yesterday, I forwarded an excellent email on legal versus illegal immigration to all my friends and family. It was reasoned and beautifully written, and made a case on both sides for a compromised solution.

I didn't give a second though to it, because it was balanced and intelligent.

This morning, I received an email from my sister which was copied to everyone on that original email. I was called all manner of foul names, was condescended to, ridiculed, told I was ignorant, and on and on. It was a bizarre rant. Not the first time...but usually they come in the middle of the night when she has gotten significantly drunk. (She lost her nursing license as well because she is an addict, not only to alcohol but to drugs, and she was in a position to prescribe for herself.)

Anyway, this email is really nothing new for her, but the addition of sending 20 plus copies was a new twist.

I took a deep breath, sent an apology to my mailing list, and dropped it. I removed her from my contact list, tagged her email name as spam, blocked her from being able to read my facebook, and thought I was done with it.

I underestimated my friends. First, my friend Sherry blasted her out of the water with a five page email in a rainbow of colors, bold and underlined, sometimes adding italics. I guess you could say that she ripped her a new one. (Sorry)

Then came a litany of supporting, loving emails from friends. One lady was leaving for the hospital to take her daughter to surgery, and she took time to be an encouragement. I had one or two other people "reply to all" with the kindest, most uplifting, heartwarming messages...just made me cry.

I am always the taget of Becky's vitriol and she has done her best to ruin my image in our family. My family lets her do it. No one stands up to her. She believes they are her minions. They don't contradict her because she is just completely nuts. Because of her history of shooting her husband, we are never quite sure what she will do.

So, the day has ended and I feel wonderful about the amazing things my friends have said. I probably don't deserve it, but for now I think I will fake it and believe it is true! Interesting series of events, eh?

 

[dragonlaurel]

I've always said that friends are the family you get to pick. I'm glad you have real friends that stood up for you.

Hope she ends up getting help for her mental state. Sorry if that was too blunt. Nobody needs to be treated like that.

 

[kcsunshine]

More from more of your friends. Isn't it wonderful that we get to pick our friends - we can't help who our family is.

 

[Beekissed]

I can definitely identify and sympathize! For the record, I think your sis is deeply disturbed and should have been committed some time ago.

Its hard to have wacko family....you can move away but you can never really get far enough that they don't try to find you and hurt you in some way.

 

[Farmfresh]

and more

I can identify. My mother was an un-medicated bipolar. Times were hard when I was a kid.

 

[Dace]

Awww....it is a good thing that your parents have you!

Be careful and I hope that this is the last you have to deal with her for a long while!

 

[noobiechickenlady]

Wowza!
One good thing that came out of that bad situation is the support & encouragement from your friends. Nice to know folks will back you up. Probably don't deserve it?!? You didn't just deserve it, you needed that from your folks.
I'm with Bee, you most likely have a case for having her commited.